fearful of crowds....boundaries????

[thecoopstah]

Although our boundaries were crossed in a major way when we were children,now that i'm an adult over the last 6-8 months i've noticed myself being extemely,fearful,tense and very aware of my surroundings lately due to obvious reasons.So therefore i find it real hard to be around crowds of people thereby just the thought of it brings on anxiety ....is there anyone who goes through this ,and if so,how do you deal with it?...because i'll tell you...i feel like i'm going crazy...i'm constanstly concerned of being touched and or grabbed....call it what you want..this abuse is very provocative ....i need all the help i can get, whereas one would think if i can somehow try and relax ....well i've tried this method ...nothing works....please help...i'm at my wits end...

 

[kolisha54]

After having been jumped from behind several times, is it any wonder that I find footsteps in back of me to be UNBEARABLE????

You are FAR from alone!

This is a common symptom of PTSD.

Unfortunately, no one seems to have found a "cure" yet. The best book I've found (that has very practical advice) is called "I Just Can't Get Over It" by Aphrodite Matsakis. (I might very well have the info slightly wrong - if yes, just let me know & I'll look it up for you.)

Good luck with your healing/dealing.

 

[sadanddown]

I know exactly what you are talking about. I have the same problems. What works for me, if I'm at a party or a bar or something, is that I get the heck away from everyone. I just leave, and it works pretty well to just walk away from the situation. Maybe I am not dealing with it, but at least I can go back out and rejoin all of my friends after a while of being alone.

I also hate being touched by people, I can't stand it when people are really close to me. Below is a story about that at a bar I went to. I put Triggers on it because it bothers me still just thinking about it.


**Possible Trigger...at least for me**


I was at a bar a couple weeks ago and one of the girls walking by groped me. It has made me not want to go out since then, it completely ruined my experience and any of the fun that I was having there. I'm still dealing with that incident everytime one of my friends wants to go out. It brought back some of the memories I had with the SA from my babysitter. I don't know how to deal with that at all. All of my friends thought it was cool but right when she did it I almost had like a flashback I guess is what you would call it. Really bugged the heck outta me. Sorry, I just needed to get that out.