Escapism, what do you do?

Escapism, what do you do?
lostcowboy

lostcowboy

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I learned during and after my moms and dads divorce to get loss in science fiction books during the worst of it I was reading about three books a day or 600 pages or so. I still read today. Speaking of which I have a book all ready.
 
Why escape when you can internalize and suppress? lol
 
Originally posted by MikeNY:
Why escape when you can internalize and suppress? lol
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:)

So in other words, what are our hobbies? I like to do car audio stuff. Not necesarrily working on my car all the time, but I like to at least read up on things, look at peoples installs etc...
 
Another way I relieve stress is by rocking out with my favorite music. Not long ago I used real player 10 to rip all my CD's to MP3's. I use Winamp for playing them, I like it best of all the players. I select the albums I want to hear, and select random and repeat play. I got my own radio station! rock on!
 
I also like to play guitar, I'm not very good at it...but I can learn songs from TAB if I practice them for long enough
 
I sail or walk the beach alone. Also, I tend to get into a wild cleaning mode form time to time. Gotta have that organization and structure!
 
I work out at the Gym. I mountainbike and inlines skate in the summer and teach inline skating. In the winter I snoboard. The gym is for self image and meets my need for pain for which I have not lost the attraction. But is safe now this way. I like the othe things because there is an element of risk to them at all times. This replaces dangerous situations in which I found myself for most of my life before dealing with SA. In reflection I guess I suppress by replacment.
 
Books are my first love, house of my family was always full of them.

Now I have time to read books only on my vacation. Then I read really fast. Few hundred pages per day.

Beside this I developed one strange hobby. I systematically collect and put in my brain a lot of information.
From books (historical, geographical, encyclopaedias ...), newspapers, internet, news channels, whatever source I can find...
I specially prefer to store economical facts (on business channels I can found ocean of information :) ).
There is no any practical use of this hobby but I like to build some kind of a database in my mind and on that way I am totally out of mine problems.

Ivo
 
Well, I used to have a lot of unhealthy escape mechanisms. But I avoid those now.

But I still have some that are allowed. I read trash mysteries. I smoke cigars. I handicap horse races. I analyze stocks. I listen to music. I used to use long drives as an escape, but not so much now because of the traffic in my area.

Thats about it. Im always looking for new ones, though.
:D
 
i just sat in my backyard and meditated -
the crashng down all around
starts to disappear sometimes -

i smoked cigarettes and played with the smoke

all around me ...
 
For me it's off-road competition driving, not that I'm any good at it, I just lurk around 3 or 4th place in most comp's.

It's the challenge of getting an old Range Rover as far as possible through the worsr terrain imaginable that's so good.
Then being towed and winched out by my mates who are merciless in their piss taking!

I'm off tomorrow, to a new site in the Welsh mountains, and the weather forecast is for torrential rain and possibly snow.
The seasons finished, so there's no points to be won, it's just for fun.
Bring it on! :D

Dave
 
No doubt about it.

For me, it's scratching in the dirt, pulling the weeds and planting things.

I once told a friend of mine that gardening was my therapy.

He paused, looked around at the masses of plants all around my yard and said, "Dude, you must be really screwed up!".

Some compliment, huh?
 
All of tese excapes sound to me like wonderful hobbies. I escape into work. Endless work. Alwys taking on new projects...more than anyone can handle. I caqn never turn down anything that sounds interesting. Money is not the motivator (I don't get paid by the project), it's stimulation - an addiction maybe to interesting things that can keep my mind of SA and its aftermath. Only recently have I linked theis "workaholism" to SA, so the link is still tentative in my mind, but it sure makes sense. I sure wish I read more or gardened or raced cars or just sat in the backyard...but those would leave me too much time to think...and hurt.
 
I'm also a big reader. I also play role playing games (like Dungeons and Dragons.) I'm especially fond of a live action version of gaming I particpate in as well. For a weekend every month or so, I don't have to be me. I can be someone better whom I've designed and for who things are generally going better. :)

I'm also a big fan of some video games, but that one easily slips into numbing for me during my not so good times.

-Eric
 
Mickey
when you're out having fun, you don't have time to think.
Yesterday, when I was out playing in the mud, I didn't think about 'abuse' in any shape or form all day.
It's a welcome relief, and a touch of reality.

Getting out and meeting people outside of the 'abuse' community is something I believe we NEED to do.
If it's joining a chess club, volunteering to make tea at an old folks home or something as extreme as base jumping, they all take our focus away from our problems for a while. In the end we get to like it.

Dave
 
I just had the greatest escape I've had in a loooong time. I watched the monday night football game. I didn't think about anything except the game the entire time. I love football, it is a great escape for me too. A bunch of my friends and I play fantasy football...maybe next season we could start one up on here, because it is a lot of fun to keep track of players and all. It has helped me so much just get away from everything for a while.
 
I go through cycles in what I do. I tend to obsess about one thing for awhile and then go on to another hobby. I don't know if that is healthy, but until this moment I had not really thought of it as unhealthy. I usually read alot, about whatever it is I am interested in. Right now I am trying to do some writing.

Also I spend time with my girlfriend and she makes me forget about most of my troubles. About the only way I think of my troubles is in that i think I am unworthy of something this good and how if she knew who(the totality) the abuse made me, she would run away. I know that is not rational, but I do have real issues of feeling worthy of anything good. Be it God's grace or the lady I love. Sorry I was rambling there.
 
Its been a while since I have posted on anything but this topic caught my eye. Last nite I did something I have not done in a long while....I watched the Sci-fi channel. The three movies "Species" was on and for the whole time I thought of nothing else but what would happen in the movie next...it was great!

Tobey
 
I love to work with my hands and create. I do this with gardening and home improvement. I love to take an empty room or a blank piece of land and turn it into something beautiful. When I'm not actually doing it, I'm thinking and planing the next project.

Of course during the summer I love to spend the day at the beach swimming and having fun with my wife and kids.

Dave
 
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