Emotionally attached as usual...

Emotionally attached as usual...
I'm not quite sure where to begin other then to say i am so fuckin sick and tired of latching on to a female who i had a date with last night but i know in fact i have AGAIN pushed someone away.I smother those who give me any attention and therefore they become turned off and smothered but yet i still do it.Why do relationships with either a male/female so damn hard for me and although i know i am overbearing and crave attention to the point virtually anyone in my life i feel close to.I feel so alone lately but yet at the same time i like it because i don't have to answer to anyone.I push most people away and i am not even aware of it and now i feel as though i'll never fuckin meet someone who will accept me for who and what i am.Nobody wants the baggage that comes with having been abused as a child and ALL THE PROBLEMS that certainly effect whoever is in my life.At times i just want to "check out" and not have to deal with all the emotions that not only come up surrounding the abuse but also when i have positive feelings with anyone but especially a female.Am i ever going to be "over and recover " from the direct results of being sexually abused.At this point who would want to put up with me and all the crap i feel inside and by extenion exhibit outwardly to others when i am paid attention to.What sane and normal person would want me in their life with all i've had to deal with.I tend to always tell the woman i meet WAY TO MUCH of my past as though if i do they'll feel sorry for me and therefore stay with me.Last night i found myself literally telling this person so much that she got upset and honestly i felt that even though i am aware of my boudaries i crossed hers and i wasn't even aware of it until now while typing this post.I just wish i could take away EVERYTHING i went through but of course i know thats not possible so now i am left having to deal with my actions again due to not being so emotionally impulsive and feel the need to tell people how much i suffered.Coopstah.
 
thecoopstah,

I understand your frustration and can feel your pain. Let it out! Keep writing and posting all of your anger, fears and frustrations. You deserve to feel and express all those emotions.

As I'm sure you already know from your therapy, the most important and difficult relationship that we will ever have in our lives is the one we have with ourselves. This takes some time, understanding and compassion. When we are finally able to build a solid foundation of love and trust with ourselves, the rest of our relationships become much more managable.

Recovery is Possible!

Brian
 
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