Dysfunctional marriage
WeighedDown
Registrant
Hi all
Been a hard time for me recently in my marriage (or for most of my relationship to my husband to be very honest)
I started dating my husband in January 2012 and we were married in 2015
From early on there were a lot of warning signs and things I should have payed attention to that would have made me realize how dysfunctional our relationship is.
Essentially- he has cheated on me, he has sexted other men, he has secretly called out of work to take secret days off doing who knows what and lost money because of this, and as of this past year he has developed a serious issue with alcoholism which led to him blowing through his entire inheritance that was supposed to be put towards our future together.
The drinking seemed average to me until i started to realize he was hiding it.
Slowly I discovered that he was drinking entire bottles of vodka alone on his days off and eventually leaving work early or not even going so he could drink.
I confronted him multiple times which lead to violence. When he drinks he is NASTY and SCARY.
I have been bruised and have been trapped in my room with just a locked door keeping him away from me (although he did attempt to break it down)
He has broken many things and said many horrible things to me.
Anyway
He agreed to go to an outpatient substance abuse program starting on Friday but i just can’t help but feel it’s not the end.
And I sit her and wonder how on earth i can stay with him and I just know deep down it’s because of how destroyed I am from years of csa and general abuse from my parents.
Please send peaceful thoughts my way
Been a hard time for me recently in my marriage (or for most of my relationship to my husband to be very honest)
I started dating my husband in January 2012 and we were married in 2015
From early on there were a lot of warning signs and things I should have payed attention to that would have made me realize how dysfunctional our relationship is.
Essentially- he has cheated on me, he has sexted other men, he has secretly called out of work to take secret days off doing who knows what and lost money because of this, and as of this past year he has developed a serious issue with alcoholism which led to him blowing through his entire inheritance that was supposed to be put towards our future together.
The drinking seemed average to me until i started to realize he was hiding it.
Slowly I discovered that he was drinking entire bottles of vodka alone on his days off and eventually leaving work early or not even going so he could drink.
I confronted him multiple times which lead to violence. When he drinks he is NASTY and SCARY.
I have been bruised and have been trapped in my room with just a locked door keeping him away from me (although he did attempt to break it down)
He has broken many things and said many horrible things to me.
Anyway
He agreed to go to an outpatient substance abuse program starting on Friday but i just can’t help but feel it’s not the end.
And I sit her and wonder how on earth i can stay with him and I just know deep down it’s because of how destroyed I am from years of csa and general abuse from my parents.
Please send peaceful thoughts my way