Divorce date near

Divorce date near
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ginny1210

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Hello everyone,

I have not posted in a while and thought it was time to post again. Tomorrow my husband and I will sign divorce documents. I live in Ca, so the divorce will take 6 months. I rarely talk to me husband these days..I feel like he does not care about me.. Although the other nite he called my crying and said he does care about me and he thinks about me everyday. He said he does not call me or see me because it would make it worse?? I mentioned to him that I pretty much have good days and once in a while I have a bad day. He says ALL his days are bad. I truly believe him. We have not been intimate since the last time he moved out 9/7..and I am sticking to my guns!! I have finally realized that my husband needs to FIX himself. I can not. I tell him I will always be there for him and that I do love him and care about him. I know it is time for me to move on with my life!! And I am at a really good time in my life regardless of my situation..I have tons of family and friends and continue going to therapy. Of course my husband is going to pay all the debt and give me the house, car and all the hoousehold contents. I know it is because of the guilt.. :(

Ginny
 
Ginny,

I'm sorry to see things ending like this. As a survivor myself it hurts so badly to see someone's abuse continue to harm the survivor and others.

But at the end of the day you are right: it's up to your husband to do his part in holding things together - you can't be responsible for it all. That isn't a relationship.

I wish you both all the very best.

Much love,
Larry
 
Ginny,

I know the feeling of the end because of the issues. I don't know what it is like to divorce over them because it never got tot he alter for me and X.

I think you did the right thing. I think it was important for your husband to know that he has to get help and that you are not "not helping" because you hate him, but because it is truely something only he can do for himself.

I wonder if our survivors will ever know that pain of having to say "I can't help you. As much as I want to, I am unable to."

I am sorry for your loss Ginny. I wish you both blessings.

Bunny
 
Ginny, I am sorry things are finalizing about your divorce.

You said, "He says ALL his days are bad."

All I can think of after reading this sentence is that your husband, like mine, is medically depressed, needs medication and counseling, and sometimes a person may have to hit rock-bottom before seeking help. Perhaps he is near his rock-bottom; I hope so. I hope for his sake he will finally seek help and soon.

In the meantime I am so thankful you have lots of family/friends. It sounds like you will be ok. You sound like a strong individual who is using her head.

God uses all kinds of situations to His benefit and we never really know why until we can look back on them years later and hopefully understand why then.

Take care.
 
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