DID

[chuck]

I have never started a topic but I guess I am gettin more confident about myself. The issue I want to discuss with the other members is how are you dealing with DID(Disassociative Identity Disorder). I just started working with my T even though I have known about these alters in my personality. I am now discovering that these alters hold lots of keys to knowledge about emotions about the abuse as well as the abuse. Since this is fairly new to me, I am just learning who they are and how to communicate with them. I have to be honest when I heard other men talking about their inner child, I thought it was just a load of garbbage. Now that I am starting I am getting insights which surprise me the doubter. I am beginning to understand why I have many conflicting feelings at times and just get overwhelmed with them that I get depressed. I am starting to communicate with them to find out why they are upset or a panic attack is occuring - how to cope and calm myself. Also with my T I am using hypnosis to get a better understanding who they are. I have discovered a book on Amazon calle "Got Parts", which my T are going to use in therapy. I am learning these parts can tell me more about the abuse that occurred when I was a child and can't remember becuase I disassociated during the attacks. The alters occurred because they are splinters that broke of me during the abuse and are out there wanting to communicate with me with their emotions and stories.
I am looking for what others have experienced as well as what you are doing to cope with DID. Just one more point - when I brought this to my T he said to me he was wondering when I was going to ask about the alters. So if you are aware or think you have alters, it might be something to discuss with your T but only when you are ready.

 

[t.c.]

I know what you mean. I have not yet seen a T but I know and so does my wife that I have DID. She sees them almost everytime I mood swing into one of them. One I know as "demon boy" and he is the one I don't like to come out at all. He is the one who would lash out at things and people.
Another is " happy guy" and he is the one who does all the mischief and has all the fun and sees the good things in life. One I have no name for ,so I just call him "boy". And he is the one who comes out to hid me and shows the scared side of me when things are not right. When he comes out my wife can always tell.
Two others I have also have no names , but I call the "serious man" and "numb". "Serious man" is the one who is in charge most of the time. He takes care of all the issues that come up that need attention. "Numb" is the one that does nothing, who doesn't care what happens to me or anyone else. With him nothing matters.
I just recently dicovered a new one .I can only discribe this one as "HIM".And he is the one I hate the most, for he is my father.
I just hope that with therapy and counceling I can come to grips with the lot.
thank you for sharing yours.

 

[chuck]

tc
Thanks for sharing about the alters. Some of the ones you describe I can relate to especially the one who likes to do nothing "numb" You see my office numb usually is there and as a result bills don't get paid or misplaced.
One of my friends who I recently shared this information said he has seen 2 or 3 of them but never said anything to me. This is frustrating and embrassing for me, because I feel so foolish when they come out and I go away. That is interesting about "HIM". I don't know if I have anyone like that but I do I have several in the wings from what I can recall from hypnosis. In way I want to meet them so I know who I am working with and in another I don't because they have memories of abuse to tell me.
Thanks again for sharing and I hope you can talk to your T about them.
Chuck