depressed, flat, deflated

depressed, flat, deflated
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Kid A

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What do you all do when you are feeling the empty dull flat feeling of depression? My T doesn't think I'm clinically depressed and neither do I, but he believes trauma goes up and down on a spectrum from understimulation (depression) to overstimulation (flashbacks, nightmares) with a whole range in between. The depressed feeling for me thankfully goes away after a few days, but always seems to come back and make everything seem dull, drab, and routine. I try to do things like go for a walk, which only slightly helps. Coffee can temporarily knock me out of that depressed state, but I hate relying on things outside myself. Anybody have any advice on how to accept, move past, or beat away those times when we feel almost nothing?
 
When I feel flat I look back at where I have come from. Its always worse that where I am now and that makes me feel better.

I remember the good people around me and even when I am alone I can feel their love.

Even if you yourself feel nothing remember that some people FEEl for you. That should give you some comfort. I know it does me.

Peace (~_^)
 
I used to write lists of things that needed doing! If I actually did something on the list, I felt better for doing it!

Best wishes...Rik

*I keep finding those lists now, and I've actually completed a lot of the tasks that I added to them!
 
Kid A,

Would it help you to keep record for awhile of interesting things you have done and important things you have achieved? It is so easy to get into a rut and to begin to underestimate ourselves.

Much love,
Larry
 
I've started journaling which has helped a bit. The other night when I was feeling depressed, I wrote specifically how my body was feeling, and read it back very surprised. My tongue felt awkardly stuck between my teeth, I felt dirty, fat, ugly, and disgusting. I wasn't fully feel these things because I was pushing these feelings of self hate so far away that they left me feeling numb. My mind doesn't believe these awful thoughts to be true, but they are very much alive and inside of me. Anyway, upon reading back my journal I realized where the depressed feeling was coming from-it was from numbing out so hard feelings that nobody really wants to accept they have about themselves. After reading it I know I'll have to start trying to accept these feelings of worthlessness in order to move past them.
 
Kid A,

This is a great move forward for you:

I know I'll have to start trying to accept these feelings of worthlessness in order to move past them.
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We have to accept and own our feelings, not in the sense of accepting that they are true, but in terms of accepting that we DO feel this way. Once we do that then the feelings themselves are not part of the dark secret. They are "out there" and can in time be worked on. We can say okay, I know I am not worthless, but it is true I feel that way. Why? What's bubbling away and making me think like that?

Well done!

Much love,
Larry
 
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