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Thanks iaccus,
These positive messages come too seldom, and it's a refreshing change. It's not 34th Street, but maybe miracles do happen.
And Merry Christmas, or happy holidays, to you and everyone on MS.
These positive messages come too seldom, and it's a refreshing change. It's not 34th Street, but maybe miracles do happen.
And Merry Christmas, or happy holidays, to you and everyone on MS.
Shyshark
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I'm so happy to hear this. 
It sometimes takes a little time for somebody to absorb one's story ... and I find this more true with men than women.
All that macho crap.
I'd be willing to bet that increasingly he's wanted to respond to you every time you contacted him over the year ...
but fell victim to what happens to us all at times ... especially with difficult things.
Procrastination.
At first he wasn't ready and then when he was he was ashamed that he had let too much time pass by ...
and so it was just awkward ... and more and more he became fearful.
The more time passed the worse it got.
So ... the time came when he knew a response was no longer enough ... it was up to him to reach out ...
or really lose a friend.
That took a lot of courage.
I'm sure he already felt that he had let you down ... and what then if you were hurt and angry at his lack of friendship
and told him to go eff himself?
He had a lot to lose ... you both did.
As they say ... "Good things come to those who wait"
New Years is coming up ... your turn ... and don't wait.
Happy Holidays my very good friend.
(((((((((((( Charles ))))))))))))))
It sometimes takes a little time for somebody to absorb one's story ... and I find this more true with men than women.
All that macho crap.
I'd be willing to bet that increasingly he's wanted to respond to you every time you contacted him over the year ...
but fell victim to what happens to us all at times ... especially with difficult things.
Procrastination.
At first he wasn't ready and then when he was he was ashamed that he had let too much time pass by ...
and so it was just awkward ... and more and more he became fearful.
The more time passed the worse it got.
So ... the time came when he knew a response was no longer enough ... it was up to him to reach out ...
or really lose a friend.
That took a lot of courage.
I'm sure he already felt that he had let you down ... and what then if you were hurt and angry at his lack of friendship
and told him to go eff himself?
He had a lot to lose ... you both did.
As they say ... "Good things come to those who wait"
New Years is coming up ... your turn ... and don't wait.
Happy Holidays my very good friend.
(((((((((((( Charles ))))))))))))))
Iaccus
I am very happy for you. I think you are blessed to have this friend in your life. Strangely in April of this year, I had read on Facebook a comment around a picture of a graduating class in the 1960's from my Catholic elementary school. The comment was about the parish priests and the comment caught me emotionally--not an overly telling comment but something told me he too had been abused. On December 23 I heard from him. Sadly, he too had been a victim. We have been chatting and now I know the older boy's name who was with me who committed suicide and the possibility of others. People do eventually come our way that help bring clarity and purpose to our struggle to heal. I have met others in other parish before abused by this priest but never one from my parish--validation (and I am sad someone else had to suffer to give validation). I hope it is the beginning of the world knowing what this man did and how many children suffered not only at the hands of the priest but how families and society reacted toward the survivors and sadly some who did not survive--why are so many people book or not booked educated so ignorant when it comes to CSA and their actions toward survivors?
I am very happy for you--friends can be family more than family can be family. You deserve good things. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays!
Kevin
I am very happy for you. I think you are blessed to have this friend in your life. Strangely in April of this year, I had read on Facebook a comment around a picture of a graduating class in the 1960's from my Catholic elementary school. The comment was about the parish priests and the comment caught me emotionally--not an overly telling comment but something told me he too had been abused. On December 23 I heard from him. Sadly, he too had been a victim. We have been chatting and now I know the older boy's name who was with me who committed suicide and the possibility of others. People do eventually come our way that help bring clarity and purpose to our struggle to heal. I have met others in other parish before abused by this priest but never one from my parish--validation (and I am sad someone else had to suffer to give validation). I hope it is the beginning of the world knowing what this man did and how many children suffered not only at the hands of the priest but how families and society reacted toward the survivors and sadly some who did not survive--why are so many people book or not booked educated so ignorant when it comes to CSA and their actions toward survivors?
I am very happy for you--friends can be family more than family can be family. You deserve good things. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays!
Kevin
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