dammit dammit dammit!!!

[PAS]

I was doing my periodic surf around the web to find out about the whereabouts of my fiance's perp.. why I do that I"m not sure maybe as a way to try and protect him, maybe if I know where this guy is living and/or working that we can avoid that place.. or maybe I think I might find something that might indicate he has been removed from his position which would make us feel that there is some justice in the world...

But NOOH instead I just find a smilin' picture of that freak's face right in front of me a minute ago...

Am not doing well at the moment.. dammit dammit dammit why did i do that to myself? I think I'm gonna be sick....

How can that asshole still hold such a prominent position in his career? How can he still have such a priviledged access to kids?

I fuckin hope he has gotten some help since the time he did what he did to my fiance.. oh man.. I am not having a good time at the moment..

Knowing the pain and anguish my fiance has gone through, seeing the face of the man that caused it.. its a rough experience. Its all I can do to not try and hack into the website and write the word "pedophile" over the picture... or write to this guy's employer and tell them they have a pedophile on staff.. but NOOH I bet I'd be sued!!!!

Sorry... thanks for letting me vent...

P

 

[kolisha54]

Breathe innnnn..... breathe ouuuutttt....

Vitamins, enough sleep, & time out for play.

 

[Lloydy]

print the picture - place in toilet bowl - let nature take it's course.

It's a horrible feeling to be confronted like that, especially with the knowledge that he's still at large.

Take care
Dave

 

[crisispoint]

PAS,

I truly understand how you feel. Really. Since my abuser was a person who was trusted with kids, since (recently I found out) he was able to do ANYTHING he wanted and not be questioned on it, I am afraid that the sonofabitch is still alive and he still has access to kids.

But it's a mixed blessing for you. This @$$hole is allowed to live his life, and the person you care for is sentanced to a lifetime of pain, even when he does heal.

I will tell you a little story, though, about how some women got even with the men who hurt them, despite not being able to press charges.

Back as far as a few years ago, when people started paying attention to date rape, some women at a college began talking about how hard it was to come forward with rape charges when they knew the first words out of some neanderthal cop's mouth was, "well, you went on a date with him. Maybe you led him on."

Maybe it was hard for them to go to the police, they decided among them,but there were still ways of "outing" men who raped and keeping other women from being victims.

One by one, they went to one women's bathroom on campus and wrote the names of their rapists under the heading, "MEN WHO RAPE" in one of the stalls. Then, they spread the word among their friends where to find the list.

They told their friends, then their friends told their friends, and on and on and on.

Pretty soon, ALL the women on campus knew who were rapists.

Now, if I were of a creative mind, I would find a way to make the information that this pig was a perp public knowledge while keeping my name out of it.

If he lives close enough by, going to where he works and writing "(fill in the blank) RAPES CHILDREN!" in one of the bathrooms. If he doesn't, writing an anonymous letter telling this group EXACTLY who they have working for them will start raising questions, too. Maybe sending them an e-mail on their "CONTACT US" switch, if they have one.

In short, telling them what they've got in a way that doesn't expose you or your loved one.

Yes, they could ignore it. Sure, they could wave it off as someone who was ticked at this person. But in this day and age, when places, churches, schools, are being sued over child abuse allegations, could they afford it? Could they withstand the attention they'd get if this became public and they ignored it?

Just something to think about.

I wish you peace, and I hope you will find something to get you through your very justifyable anger.

Peace and love, PAS.

Scot

 

[crisispoint]

P.S. Dave,




On the other hand, I wouldn't want to waste ANYHTING of mine on that creep.

Peace and love,

Scot

 

[PAS]

**** warning - possible trigger in this post****

>>>>I truly understand how you feel. Really. Since my abuser was a person who was trusted with kids, since (recently I found out) he was able to do ANYTHING he wanted and not be questioned on it, I am afraid that the sonofabitch is still alive and he still has access to kids.

Yep same as this SOB. He's still out there, in a prominent position, working with kids.

>>>This @$$hole is allowed to live his life, and the person you care for is sentanced to a lifetime of pain, even when he does heal.

Thats whats so hard. Here is that asshole's face right in front of me, looking like he doesnt have a care in the world, he was able to climb the company ladder so to speak, and my partner is crying to himself every other night feeling so ashamed, thinking of the years spent acting out, drinking, smoking pot, wasted potential, never finished high school, his dreams of being a teacher crushed by this guy.

>>>I will tell you a little story, though, about how some women got even with the men who hurt them, despite not being able to press charges.

Good story. Can't do anything about it now as there is an investigation in progress. Its taking fucking FOREVER and its just so bizarre. They said that it would be done by January but here we are almost summer and no news yet.

I dont dare do anything until the case is completed for fear of jeopardizing the case. I am half tempted to send y'all the URL of this webpage... and let the collective anger of this group do what comes naturally... I'm sure we have a hacker in our midst somewhere

>>>Now, if I were of a creative mind, I would find a way to make the information that this pig was a perp public knowledge while keeping my name out of it.

The only problem is that I dont know how many victims this guy has. If my partner is the only one, or the only one pressing a case on him, then he'll know EXACTLY who is behind it (me and my partner) and I dont think my partner needs that. He chose this route for prosecution rather than a legal or civil case because it was the least intrusive and least taxing. He coudl press an investigation through writing without having to see this guy in person and without a lawyer.

>>>If he lives close enough by, going to where he works and writing "(fill in the blank) RAPES CHILDREN!" in one of the bathrooms.

Slight variation - it would read " _________ plies teen boys with booze and porn, gets them to sleep over so can try and jack them off, and then gets them even more drunk he can easily coerce them to pose naked for kiddy porn in compromising positions with other adults"

(barf... was hard to write that sentence).. but I hope that was ok. I've never told another soul exactly happened.. and it was eating me up. I hope I didnt trigger anyone but I feel I had to let that information go somewhere, and this was the best place to do it. I know we all talk pretty bluntly about this kind of shit so I do hope this was ok.

>>>>Yes, they could ignore it. Sure, they could wave it off as someone who was ticked at this person. But in this day and age, when places, churches, schools, are being sued over child abuse allegations, could they afford it? Could they withstand the attention they'd get if this became public and they ignored it?

I did actually write a letter to the association doing the investigation to find out what their policy was. They only said that if the abuse was going on at this time and the child was under 16 they would have to notify the police, or if the person in question was up on criminal charges they woudl have to notify this persons employer. Other than that they dont have any legal obligations to notify the employer (the employer would be responsible for any decisions on removing the person from their job, not the professinal association doing the investigation).

>>>I wish you peace, and I hope you will find something to get you through your very justifyable anger.

Trying to. Have been having back spasms since last week. ouch. No doubt psychosomatic.

P