counselors

[abcd]

Hey guys,

I write this just to vent, but I can't quite place counselors in my life right now...

On the one hand, I know that in my particular case my first counselor helped me sift through my issues regarding my child abuse and sexuality--a very important move. I also know that my counselor has helped me in other ways--given me confidence and a positive outlook...with a proper perspective.

Yet, I also know when I feel like my counselor is "wishy-washy" so to speak. I understand from what he tells me that he has yet to really figure out all of my issues, however, I am also a little bit skeptical sometimes about how they may jump to random conclusions.

I do not know...I guess maybe it's my current counselor that bothers me more than anything (not the first/old one). He is a little bit cold at times, and I am not sure what he is thinking...maybe it is just his style. I don't know. Anyway, I guess my question is this...how do you know when you have the right counselor?

 

[Aden]

I really don't know how to tell if the counsler is the right one except to suggest that if the conditions of your life improve, then the counseling is helpful. That probably sounds stupidly simplistic. But what other measure could you use?

 

[markgreyblue]

it took me a while to trust my counselors motives -
and a lot of discussion even to define our relationship - he urged me to discuss
my relationship with him "our relationship" because he knew this is and was one of my major concerns - we made agreements - and told each other when we felt our 'agreements' were not being fulfilled - and so we argued - but what was clear is that we both realized through discussing our relationship that we would stay together -
and abide by each others needs in our agreement-