Confusion, resentment, and reality
One of the issues that i struggle with is trying to gauge how much of the difficulty i experience with women and relationships (and i mean all relationships, not just romantic ones) has been colored by what i went through at age 7 (11-y.o. female abuser), and what was colored by my later abuse by an adult male stranger...
I notice myself being far more emotionally raw and invested with any relationship with a woman, as opposed to a man, generally speaking... i guess my puzzlement is, "does this have its root more in the abuse i experienced at a younger age from an underage female neighbor (undoubtedly a CSA survivor herself), or more from the abuse i experienced 4 years later with an adult male stranger?"
Right now, for me, when i think back on it all, what happened with Wendy when i was 7 seems much more emotionally significant.
Yet, there's also the possibility that part of my mind's still trying to minimize the other abuse... there's more flatness, more reluctance to go there mentally.
Ah well- maybe posting all this will help someone else- even if only the tone of anxiety, preoccupation and overthinking strike a chord ;-)
Bless you if you managed to read this far, heh!
I notice myself being far more emotionally raw and invested with any relationship with a woman, as opposed to a man, generally speaking... i guess my puzzlement is, "does this have its root more in the abuse i experienced at a younger age from an underage female neighbor (undoubtedly a CSA survivor herself), or more from the abuse i experienced 4 years later with an adult male stranger?"
Right now, for me, when i think back on it all, what happened with Wendy when i was 7 seems much more emotionally significant.
Yet, there's also the possibility that part of my mind's still trying to minimize the other abuse... there's more flatness, more reluctance to go there mentally.
Ah well- maybe posting all this will help someone else- even if only the tone of anxiety, preoccupation and overthinking strike a chord ;-)
Bless you if you managed to read this far, heh!