Confession time in small world

Confession time in small world
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Ivo

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My brother has called me.
His close friend from Zagreb (city where he is living)saw me last weekend when I was out in Sarajevo. She thought that I was my brother and I was sure that I didn't know that girl. Not strange thing because we are identical twins and we confused a lot of people many times. He wanted to know where and with whom I had been that night.
I am little bit nervous to tell him the truth (I was with my gay friends) but I suppose that this point had to come. I cannot hide anything from my brother even if we are living in different countries.
So I promised to him that I would send him one big mail in which I would explain to him everything.

I decided that I would start my story with the finding of this site.
I am little bit in a panic, wish me luck.

Ivo
 
This is a very good step your gonna take Ivo. Know wer'e behind you 100% :)
 
Ivo,

The best of wishes for this step you are taking. It is hard to take that step, never knowing what the reaction will be.

But it is another part of you taking back your life. Not pleasing anyone, but putting yourself first.

Hope it all goes well for you bro!

Marc
 
Ivo,

You are doing what seems right for you; therefore this is what is right for you to do.

Please remember, is it that which we keep secret that harms us the most; not that which we speak out loud.

Warm wishes to you. You know you always have love and support here. Remember that also as you pursue your path.

Regards,
 
This is a big and important step for you. I am behind you in it.

As difficult as it is, I believe that we, as gay men, cannot be our whole selves in the world if we do not find ways to be fully honest at least with those closest to us.

It is interesting how this seems to parallel our efforts to be "out" as survivors. Eventually, in that way, too, I believe that we will have to be honest about the abuse that occurred, at least with those closest to us, in order to be able to fully acknowledge the pain we did and do experience.

It is only by acknowledging the pain, I believe, that we can finally, truly, deal with it.

Being an identical twin adds something different to the event of coming out to your brother. If what you say about not being able to hide anything from him is true, if this refers to a psychic connection, he probably knows already.

Let us know what happens. We are all behind you, have or are struggling with this ourselves and so feel nothing but empathy for you now.
 
Good for you Ivo. As a twin I think that maybe he already knows and has not raised it as an issue. And it should not be an issue. The reason I say this is that I know a couple of twins and they are very in tune to each other. And Ivo it is not a sin to be gay. Like you had a choice!!!! We are born the way we are.
 
I want to thank you all on kind support.

It is all right now. He knew many things already but he didn't want to speak to me.

My problem with my brother is that we are too connected to each other and I am always emotional when I am talking about my big issues with him (I still do not know how to deal with emotions).

He wants to support and help me in everything.

Without you all this would be much harder for me to do, thanks
Ivo
 
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