Coming to Terms with Sadness

Coming to Terms with Sadness
C

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Recently, I lost my dog. Now, for many, this is something that saddens and you move on from. For me, it's not. Even though it was her time, I am deeply saddened by her dealth. Tonight I visited my parents for the first time since she died, and so many memories kept coming back. I can't seem to win. All the good memories make me sadder. To understand why, I guess I'd have to say that this dog was intertwined with my abuse. She came to us, a stray, in the midst of my undertermened length of abuse. Feeling sad for her has, for the first time, given me perspective on saddness. I don't think I ever truely understood its meaning, or how to describe it. Understanding that made me look back at my childhood and realize how sad I really was. This dog was always there, a comfort and savor. She was always the one who made that sadness bearable, and now I think about it and wonder how to treat my saddness without her.

Remembering the good times with her; however, has not gone without punishment I guess. I also remembered today, somethings I didn't think I would, and all I really want now is to be selfesh and have her back.

I guess I'm rambling now, but even this sad, it helps to talk about her. Thanks for reading.

CC
 
Sorry about your dog, CC. We love our pets as much as humans sometimes. Sometimes our pets are more worthy of our love than the humans we know. I used to have an old bassett hound that anytime I would run and hide and cry, he would find me and lay down right up against me to comfort me.

Grieve for your dog, CC, and though remembering the good times with your dog may bring back bad memories too, appreciate that even now that dog is helping you face issues that you need to deal with.

PS...My wife has 4 cats you can have!
 
I see the feelings of Sadness that appear to come from all those good memories, as Our Acknowledgment of the Gift", that Unconditional Love is, in Life.
We are admitting to ourselves how important Being Loved really IS !
It shows us how wonderful Life is. And reminds us how we forget to take enough note of the basic (& often simplest/undemanding) relationships & friendships that hold the greatest weight/importance for us.

Sometimes the sadness is actually the feeling of shame for taking these Most precious gifts for granted. And we are reminded of what we should be doing, celebrating the Life we share.

What would our dear friends wish for us be on this day? Celebrate life! Be thankful for the times we shared. AND, reinvest ourselves in the friendships & relationships we have.

Remember, it's quite Human to feel sadness in response to death. So you Are Normal.
Yet, with each Death of a Loved one, we should acknowledge that we are capable of being Loved & we are capable of Loving others, unconditionally. And it is No less than what we deserve.

~ Peace, Blacken
 
CC
Your dog, in her wisdom, was your sanctuary and safety. Additionally she love you without reservation and without expectation. She loved you because of who you were. And you did the same for her.

Grieve her well as a true and loving friend. You will carry the memories of her with you always. In time the memories will become one of warmth and safety. It is the goodness of her that will stand out for you.

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CC,

I am very sorry for the loss of your four legged friend.

Why do we love animals so much? (something that perhaps I have thought about too much)- Animals are pure emotion - they cannot talk back to us - they cannot say hurtfull things to us - they do not do hurtfull things to us - they trust us fully - they relly on us for their very existance - there is a bond that is formed in all of this that is as powerfull as any connection between two living things could possibly be...

Loseing a friend like that can be a very emmotional thing - there is nothing wrong with being sad about that loss...

Reading your post flashed a memory back into my mind of a Doberman my folks had while I was growing up - that dog would dig into my hiding place under the bed and sleep the night with me - somehow that dog always knew when I was feeling low - she would always be right at my side durring sad times - always...

I was very sad when I heard that that dog had died - she loved me more than my own parents had while growing up... - Yes, I was sad for quite a long time but now I can look back at all of the good things that that dog helped me to learn as a child

Sadness fades with time...

I now have a Chocolate Lab who has worked her way into my heart very deeply and yes I will be very sad also when she dies - this is the circle of life - nothing lasts forever - but with each loss comes a new chance to love another - I know that I will never be without a dog in my life (perhaps maybe it will be the same for you)

Take care my friend,

TJ jeff
 
CC, I rescued a dog and gave him a good home. We used to go together for really long walks in any weather. Somehow he sensed how I felt, he was so much comfort.

Gradually his heart got worse, and although he wanted to, he could not go on walks which was also very sad. I felt so helpless, as I knew just how much he would love to have gone on his walks.

The time came when he was just too weak and he had to be put to sleep, I could not do it, so I had to get someone else to take him.

I just went out into the hills,where we walked, and cried so much for him, just as I did as a kid.
God, how we miss such loyal friends, they can never be replaced.

I hope she can bring fond memories, she has done her job, she was there for you,

Peace,

ste
 
I'm sorry about the loss of your dog. I know how it feels. I lost my dog many years ago, I was heartbroken. 2 of my friends recently just got a dog, I went over there yesterday to just sit there with him. I think he was the only one who understood how I was feeling, that I was in pain, that I was in need. I just sat there with him for an hour and it made me feel better. He wouldn't judge me if I was crying, he wouldn't judge me if I was hurting, he would just be there. He wouldn't say anything to me, heck, I don't even know if he understood, but just being there with him helped me.

I understand your loss, and hope you feel better soon. Look back at all the good times you had with your dog. Thats what I do with my dog (Brandy) was her name. She was such a good dog.

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Jon
 
CC - I got my dog when I was 5 & lost him when I was 19....he never ever let me down & that's what is really sad when you loose a favourite pet.

I got to a point where I expected that every 'human' would eventually let me down - I've since been proved wrong. Some humans are as good as dogs!

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Just wanted to say thanks all for your replies. They are appreciated.

CC
 
Sorry to here about your loss. I had a cat for a very long time and she would always find me when I was very sad. She was my best friend she would sleep with me at night. If I woke up with a bad dream it would never fail she would lick me on the forehead. I get tears in my eyes just thinking about her. But she got cancer and I had to put her to sleep(cried forever it seemed). It will get better and soon enough you will have another pal. I now have three cats.
 
Glen, when you talk about cats, I had one after the abuse, and she meant the World to me, I squoze her so tight some nights, she soaked up my tears.
It's funny how these pets have so much instinct, you can tell them anything, you don't have to say a thing. Their instincts are of unconditional love and affection. They know you are hurt, they comfort and heal.
I will always remember her, and my other pets, they are the best,

ste
 
Ste
I remeber being able to fall asleep listening to her
purr. It was pure joy wking up with her sleeping on my pillow I always felt secure with her. My eyes water just thinking about her. But I need to remember that I will love and be loved that way again.
 
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