Coming Out Spiritually

[Grahame]

Hi,
I've never posted anything and this is the 2nd time I've visited the site. Can anyone tell me if they have read anything by Christian de la Huerta. I'm currently reading his book "Coming Out Spriritually" and was wondering what you thought. I have a lot of issues with being gay and being in the Church as a clergy abuse survivor and this may not be the right place for the posting, but I thought I would start here.

I grew up a churched United Methodist, was raped by one of the pastors. I was Assembly of God after becoming a born-again Christian (lots of issues with that one) was Prebyterian while part of an X-Gay ministry (Spiritually Raped with that one and been there, done that, not going anywhere near that one again) went back to being a Methodist at the Church I was raped in, somehow it seemed safer for a while and now am ready to strike out again to find some spiritual body to be a part of and my spriritual path is so very much a part of me but I'm not sure where it's going to lead me as I may just drift for a while.

So, if you have any thoughts on this I would like to hear from other spiritual gay men who are survivors. Thanks!

 

[Dale English]

Hi Grahame,

Glad you raised this issue. Yes, I've read his book and also attended his workshop of the same name with about 20 other gay men of every different religious and spiritual background. He strikes me as a very genuine man. His message that we can find our true spirituality by embrasing our sexuality regardless of what other people say is core I believe to a faith in something greater than ourselves that apparently created us exactly as we are.

I too am a survivor of clergy sexual abuse and find any further exploration of the spirit through a religious paradigm, influenced and bastardized by misguided men, absolutely impossible. If there is such a thing as a God then I believe I will discover it through the love I will feel and share with the man who would choose to be in that spirit relationship with me.

Bottom line Grahame, don't let anyone superimpose a belief system on you...not even de la Huerta. Discover it for yourself in the fullness of the gay relationships that are before you. It is there, I believe, that you will find true Spirit!

Thanks again for bringing this up. I miss talking about Spirit....

Taz