TRYINGTOFIGUREITOUT
New Registrant
I have been in a "relationship" with someone for 13 years. He was severely abused by his father from a very early age. He was "passed around" to the father's friends to use as they wished. I recognized the signs of CSA early on. When I finally asked him if he was abused, his silence was DEAFENING !!!!! My first words were "IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT" and "I LOVE YOU".
Over these many years we have been very close and he has pushed me away (1 1/2 years was the longest) I will then hear from him and he will tell me how much I mean to him, how grateful he is to have me and how he doesn't want to lose me. These infrequent calls will only happen when he is drunk and he is feeling uninhibited.
I have read MANY books on the subject and have found minor comfort in some of the explanations. Whenever I try to broach the subject, he will shut down. I have suggested therapy and agreed to go along.............he isn't ready.
Needless to say, the abuse has severely affected our sexual relationship.
ANY suggestions would be MOST WELCOMED.
Thank you for reading.
Over these many years we have been very close and he has pushed me away (1 1/2 years was the longest) I will then hear from him and he will tell me how much I mean to him, how grateful he is to have me and how he doesn't want to lose me. These infrequent calls will only happen when he is drunk and he is feeling uninhibited.
I have read MANY books on the subject and have found minor comfort in some of the explanations. Whenever I try to broach the subject, he will shut down. I have suggested therapy and agreed to go along.............he isn't ready.
Needless to say, the abuse has severely affected our sexual relationship.
ANY suggestions would be MOST WELCOMED.
Thank you for reading.