Cannot keep reaching out

Cannot keep reaching out
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crisispoint

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I know I shouldn't feel so down about this. It happened before, that I dealt with someone who was suicidal here, but something happened here that bothered me over the weekend, and still does bother me.

Long story short (and why I left that post about doing something rash), a person here I care very much about left what sounds like a suicide note. I have no other way of contacting him, so I PM'ed him and the moderators to see if there was anything that COULD be done. I know it's limited, but it's all I can do.

I've done all I can do, but this kid needs the help so much and for him to have harmed himsef, well, it hurts. I hope he hasn't, but I have no way of knowing.

Look, I hope I NEVER get used to this. It means that I've become hard and uncaring to anyone else's concerns but myself. And I've got to pat myself on the back, I'm not reacting as negatively as I did before. But I still feel I failed him. I still feel that I didn't do enough, that I never do enough.

*sigh* I hope he's all right. That's all I can do.

Scot
 
reaching out to others comes with risks. there are some you will never reach, no matter how hard you try. all they see in life is dispair. i got to know one here that i believe committed suicide. he was just gone one day. i often wonder what happened to him. be kind to yourself. you can offer support, advice and hope, but in the end what other people do with that is up to them. i wish you well, take care
 
Phoster,

Thanks for the kind words. I know this in my mind. In my heart, I've just failed him.

That isn't true, but I certainly feel it.

He needed help, and there wasn't anything I could do. That hurts. Helplessness hurts. And I so wanted to read it positively. Someone else did, and I understand why, but, I don't know.

Coming unglued again.

Scot
 
You did do everything you could, and in the end it was his decsion, if he wanted to do it it wouldn't matter what you said, he would have done it anyway. I know it is hard, I have friends I am always worried about doing something like this, and all I can do is e-mail, and it feels like that may not be enough, but it is all I can do. I know it may not seem like it, but I think that reaching out truly means a lot and can really help people, even if it feels like it hasn't helped them. You are a good person with a good heart and you care, and caring can be a hard thing to do, but in the end it is worth it, even if we are scared. I am glad to have you here, you do give a lot and that means a lot to everyone, I know it means a lot to me. Hope for your friend, but take care of yourself as well.

scott
 
Scot,

No matter what happened, you did not fail him. You provided all the help that you could possibly provide.

You can't run down the cable line and rescue a person. That is not possible. You did everything you could. Feel proud of yourself as a person for doing that, I am.

Bill
 
you did not fail him crisis -

he may have checked into a clinic - or may have gotten help -

in any case - i agree there is only so much each of us can do for each other - and there is self determination -

again we can only do so much - and then let go -

you have been so helpful to me and the everyone -

you are a great guy
 
Crisis fail him you did most definitely NOT. You did all you could believe me. We all tried to contact him.

I live by the rule that no news is good news until we hear otherwise. All we can do is hope and that is all.

Crisis we move on and that is all there is to it. We cannot control what another person does ever. And I would never do it because I know what it is like to be controlled.

It is up to all of us here to heal and be there for those still suffering abuse when they find us.
 
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