Canadian Survivors justice system experiences...

[Junyah]

Hello all, pretty new here. Living just west of Toronto, Ontario, Canada. I've been checking out some posts and have found alot of encouraging stories/experiences. I have noticed alot of postings from brothers in the USA, England, NZ, and Australlia. While I find it informative and educational, and in some ways hopeful, I would love to hear from some of my fellow Canadians and their experiences with reporting their abuse. I for one cannot take the nightmares, the paranoia, distrust, anger hurt and sadness I carry with me on the daily due to the abuse I suffered at the hands of this sick bastard. I need to report this soon before this sicko dies or leaves the country to go back to his home country where he would be beyond the reach of our laws I fear. Mind you after this is all said and done I will be seeking a deportation order, so any information on that would be greatly appreciated as well.
Not sure how to word these but here goes:
1, How were you treated by the police you reported it to?
2, Was there any protection offered to you for any safety concerns you or the police may have had?
3, Was financial help made available to you through any government programs or agencies?
4, Were you as scared as I currently am at the thought of actually going into the police station and making an official complaint?
5, Did you go alone to report or did you bring support with you?
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I am trying to maintain a level of discretion, for the time being, due to fears of compromising any future legal action, something I am planning on doing in the very near future. Still unsure of the laws surrounding that. So please forgive me if I do not go into too many details right now. I will however keep you all updated as to my progress as it is made. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read this and any responces it may recieve......
Peace.....
Junyah

 

I can only answer question 4 - Yes I was scared, but not as scared as the thought of doing nothing, I waited 20 years too long.

I went through the courts in the UK, got the guy jailed before it was too late. He spent his 70th Birthday in prison.

Go for it, you will feel better for having done something.....

Good luck

 

[reality2k4]

Why not ring the cops and ask one of them to come and see you.
It is a personal matter that should warrant them calling to your home.

If not, take someone with you for support.

ste

 

[WalkingSouth]

Junyah,

Not Canadian, and way past the time when I can file a report here in the US, but just want to say you have my love and support in your quest for justice.

Lots of love,

John

 

[RICK57]

Junyah - I'm from England, so the law may be different here.

In 2004, I reported abuse that happened way back in 1969.

The police sort of found me! I'd wanted to make a complaint for some time, but didn't know how to do it! One night I had been out drinking, and had revisited the abuse site! On the way home, a police car stopped next to me, and I had a conversation with the driver! He looked at me, and asked if there was something else? I told him!

He treated me very well, as did other menbers of the police force. The Judiciary were a bit more laid back about their role, but a conviction of sorts was achieved this year!

The first policeman that I spoke to had received specialist training for 'sensitive subjects'. Maybe you have policemen over there that are similar. It doesn't hurt to ask - I know it's terrifying taking that step, and you are the only person that can decide to do so!

I didn't receive any protection, I didn't need any!

There was no financial support, but The Crown (state) actually prosecuted, so I was classed as a witness. The state paid for the prosecution.

I made a detailed 15 page statement that practically made the case rock solid! That is why they prosecuted!

It was a very difficult 17 months between reporting the case, and achieving the conviction! Although it was a difficult time, I would do it all again! Life is now steadily improving again!

Hope this helps?

Best wishes ...Rik

 

[Junyah]

thanks for the info and inspiring words. I'm so close I can taste it, but so scared at the same time. I think my biggest fear is that this could get quite messy and quite public. How do I prepare my loved ones? Do i tell my family first of my plans to report it, or do I do it first then tell them? I dont want anyone to hear it second hand the things that were done to me, and the things i subsequently ended up doing at the suggestions of this monster. My words my story my time. But then I sit here and feel it's almost as if I owe it to myself and others that he could get his hands on. I think for the first few years of my memories I figured that somebody must have reportd it to the police, like the dctors college he was revoked from, but I was mistaken. They "have no legal obligation to report it to police" as they said, what about a moral obligation, what about public safety? It feels now like I am the only one that is willing to report it to police, maybe me making the first report will bring others forward. And if not atleast I repored what happened to me. Sorry if I babbled there, sort of an external thought process..
I am confidant I will report this. It is just a matter of when. I know it will be soon, spring is here, followed by summer. I will not have my summer ruined with a cloud over me saying, report it report it...I have time in the end of may and beginning of june that I can have someone attend with me so I have decided to use one of those times to report this. I will keep you posted as to my progress..
thanks again for the inspirtation and kind words..
Peace
Junyah

 

[Nobbynobs]

Originally posted by Junyah:
thanks for the info and inspiring words. I'm so close I can taste it, but so scared at the same time. I think my biggest fear is that this could get quite messy and quite public. How do I prepare my loved ones? Do i tell my family first of my plans to report it, or do I do it first then tell them?

I talked to the police about coming in first, then told my family, then made my formal complaint.

But then I sit here and feel it's almost as if I owe it to myself and others that he could get his hands on.

That is how I felt as well. Tell the police this, it will help a lot.

It feels now like I am the only one that is willing to report it to police, maybe me making the first report will bring others forward. And if not atleast I repored what happened to me.

The cops I talked to called this the mushroom effect. One kid comes forward, then a whole bunch come forward. Happens all the time apparently.

I am confidant I will report this. It is just a matter of when. I know it will be soon, spring is here, followed by summer. I will not have my summer ruined with a cloud over me saying, report it report it...I have time in the end of may and beginning of june that I can have someone attend with me so I have decided to use one of those times to report this. I will keep you posted as to my progress..

You will know when it's time, and Ontario has great police resources for this sort of thing, so I think you will find the experience to be a positive one.

Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

Nobby