Bizarre, surreal last few days (WARNING - BIG TRIGGERS)

Bizarre, surreal last few days (WARNING - BIG TRIGGERS)
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EGL

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** WARNING - BIG TRIGGERS **

The last few days have been surreal, bizarre things. My wife teaches 1st grade and one of her students from last year was killed in a car wreck on Saturday. Dustin was such a sweet kid, only 7 years old. His father was driving and drunk. Father survived and is in ICU, but Dustin is dead. School started back up week before last, and every day Dustin come by my wife's classroom after school (even though he was in 2nd grade now) and gave her a hug, just because he liked her so much. My wife, of course, is very upset. Went to the visitation this evening, it was very sad.

Got home from the visitation and noticed a bunch of police cars lining my street and neighbors in the yards talking. My next door neighbor had gone into his backyard and killed himself. Shot himself in the head. I've known him ever since we moved into the neighborhood 8 years ago.

Like I said, this all seems so surreal, like I'm in a bad dream. Glad I have a session with my T tomorrow. I'm shaking so bad now, even though I took some med. I think I just need to go to sleep.
 
EGL,

Thanks for sharing your story. I had an unreal or surreal days at the beginning of June, but nothing like what you've encountered. God, that's such a sad story. I'm sorry for your loss and Dustin's father sounds like he couldn't take the loss either. It always amazes me how in a split second someone's life can change...

Take it easy,
Fusion
 
Hi Eddie.

Hang in there, and keep talking. It certainly sounds as though you have been through the ringer.

Your story certainly reminds me just how fragile life can be.

I hope things settle down for you and that your appointment with your therapist helps you get through this tuff time.

Warm regards Mark S
 
Eddie,

That is a lot for anyone to handle. I bet there are many people in the community who could use some time in therapy now.

It's good that you'll have that appointment today. I'm sorry that all of this has happened. I hope you (and the other people affected) will feel better soon.

Thanks,

Joe
 
Eddie it has been bad for you. Dustin had no control over who his father was or how he behaved. In a way it was like us. Wrong place, wrong time and maybe with wrong family. But we had no control over the situation and neither did Dustin. Give you wife a big hug for us.

Was the neighbour Dustin's father. That might say a lot. If he was not all I can say is some internal demons were pushing him and he had no outlet to express his feelings and get assistance dealing with them.

Eddie that is what makes this place special for us all. We can get some assistance between therapy sessions and when we need some contact
 
Mike - My neighbor who killed himself last night was unrelated to Dustin (my wife's student who died in the car wreck due to his father driving drunk).

I found out some more about the events leading to my neighbor killing himself. He had a (benign) brain tumor that they were going to remove today. Yesterday evening he was home by himself when his wife called to check on him. She said he was talking incoherently and not making sense. When she got home, she found him dead in the backyard, having shot himself in the head.

I talked to my T about this today. He said that people who are suicidal have a chemical imbalance in the brain that leads them to think towards that direction. Normally, our brains are wired towards self-preservation, but things like depression can cause the chemical imbalance to tilt the other way towards suicide. He said that he's seen studies done on people with suicidal tendencies and the evidence suggests that they do indeed have a chemical imbalance in the brain that is causing it. With my neighbor, his tumor most likely was causing the incoherence in his nature, and also causing the imbalance which to him made it seem like he needed to go outside and kill himself. Very sad.
 
Eddie
that's more grief and distress that most people get in many many years.

Take care of yourself and talk about it in therapy, even though it's unrelated to any abuse issues it's vitally important for your mental health..

Take care
Dave
 
EGL,

I am so sorry for the two losses you and your wife have suffered, and in such tragic ways. I can imagine you not feeling quite 'all there' with all this that has happened. A person I had quickly gotten rather close to died a few months ago. Even though I had not known her well or long, it still had affect on me. My thoughts are with you right now. Please take good care.

Leosha
 
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