Bathing and sleeping with a child?

Bathing and sleeping with a child?
Sorry, but sleeping in teh nude with a child is wrong. No child would say, "Mommy, please take ff your night gown before you come to bed with me." The child do not want it.

This mother is using the kids to fill the void in her life. Using children in this way is abuse. Period.

Ken
 
Bathing with a child at any age is wrong IMO. You obviously have to bathe your child as a baby, etc but that doesn't mean you may as well take care of your own needs while your doing it. There sense of personal identity develops about the age of two (seperate entity than mother), at that age definitely bathing seperately, even if you have to get into the bath help them through it, demonstrate it, and then bathe later seperately (ie purpose of child's bath is the child, purpose of your bath is yours) A child picks up on this and it helps them a lot IMO.

Also sleeping with your child on a normal basis is wrong, let alone naked. You spend so much sleepless nights getting your kid to accept being in a seperate room in the crib (crib shouldn't be in the same room; it retards psychological development IMO) that to bring the kid back to your bed is really messed up. Obviously there will be nights when your daughter is frightened and needs to sleep with mom and dad that night; that is normal. I am saying on a consistent basis it is wrong.

btw this is not a response to anyone's post, just my opinion on the topic.
 
Well here is some flak for you Reality.

My abuser never made me do anything.

You see he was the adult and when you're ten, the adults know everything. This adult told me it was ok to do certain things and these things were a little weird but they felt good you see.

I liked the attention I got from this guy and that made me happy. Hmmm

So according to you, the things this guy did to me are fine. And perfectly ok.

I would disagree with you on that one. Now that I'm an adult I can look back and say that it was not ok. :mad:

Nor is this.
 
Hi Roland

sorry, know how you feel, nothing was meant by me to say it is OK to do these things.

All kids have a need for privacy throughout their early years, mom really shouldn't have done these things, and there may be psychological damage done to these kids.

Is this though, a clear case of "abuse"?

It needs to be assessed by those who can determine that, not forgetting that this is a mother/child relationship.

I know that mothers are capable of harming kids,not just fathers sigh!

Because we don't know all the facts, we cannot assume it was a clear case of abuse.
 
This thread got me thinking. I was six when we moved to a house that had a large, clawfoot tub. I can remember me and my two older brothers all 3 taking a bath in it at the same time with my mother bathing us. My oldest brother would have been at least 9, maybe 10, at that time.
 
There is a time and season for parental responsibility over childrens cleansing needs. Mom and a six year old daughter might be OK. Mom and an eight year old son? No way! Others disagree with me, but I believe that the parental bed is off limits at all times. I came home unexpectedly after a week on the road and found my wife sleeping in bed with my 10 year old step son. I woke him up and sent him gently to his room. Then I told my wife, very quietly, if that ever happened again I would divorce her. Adults should never share a bed with children unless circomstances demand it, and then full clothed.
 
I think I hear and understand what you are saying Reality and I agree. The more false or trumped up claims there are the less we will be heard as survivors, and this case must be investigated before any decisions are made.

I just think that in this case something fishy is going on under the covers.

When I made claims against my abuser, they had private investigators crawl up my A$$ with mining helmets looking for a way to make me sound like a liar. It totally sucked but I knew when they were finished, everyone would know I was telling the truth. Everyone has a job to do I guess.
 
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