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I have just spent sometime here reading through the most recent posts. I have read about people suggesting how to improve this site, talking about the tragadies that have happened recently, and other things. But I have not seen any new people post. I have not seen the posts about how we feel about our lives and our problems. This worries me.

Does it mean that we are just ignoring our problems?
Does it mean that new people are scared about what they read?
Does it mean that we no longer need to deal with our problems?

I do not know the answer to these questions, but my feeling is that the answer is NO. I know how important it is to talk about these issues. But I also know that it is important that we keep our selves open the other things that are happening in our lives.

I would just like to remind the guys who are already here that it is okay to share what is happening in our lives. And to the new people do not be scared to post because of recent events. The guys here will still be here to listen.

Sinking (John) made a call to arms which I have answered. Here I am making a call to sharing. A call to listening. And most importantly a call to moving on our lives.

Please note that the call to moving on is not related to anyone who is greaving nor is it talking about ignoring recent events. It is a call to move on with our healing and to not forget that we are here to recover. To do that we need to share and listen to each other and make a space for everyone to be heard.


Jonathan
 
Jonathan:

You're not gay but you really should have a look at the gay survivors forum. Sometimes we get silly over there. But most of the time we do talk about our problems. I refer you specifically to the thread entitled "The Other Little Boy Who Hurts."

Anyone who thinks that survivors don't get into discussions of their feelings and problems hasn't been reading those posts. Please do.

Take care,

Jasper

P.S. No one will think you are gay for visiting that forum and reading what is being posted there. Larry (Roadrunner) is straight and he posts there all the time. Others are more than welcome to do the same. Just check it out, okay?
 
Thank you for saying it, Jonathan.

I, for one, have felt a little odd writing about my problems, which seem so much less than life-threatening, even when they feel overwhelming.

Thank you for reminding us that we truly pay homage to those who are gone by continuing the dialog about our journey of survival.

James
 
Jonathan - I don't think our calls to other survivors here differs one bit. My Call to Arms was/is a reaction to the tragedies that have taken place here this past week. You and I are expressing the same sentiments. We all are here to try to heal, by talking and sharing, that's what we do, try to heal. You and I are both asking that we all work to help eachother and protect eachother. All of these things are 'the things that are happening in our lives". I appreciate your response in Call to Arms and hope to see many, many more names added over the coming days. With Respect - John
 
Jon, we all know it is right what you say.
I had a really taxing day on Monday, so I go home, and I come in here and find something that I hoped would not come so soon.

I dont suppose it has really hit me yet, I try to think positive or numb out these things, but they will come back sometime.

I have places where I can just be alone in the Countryside, and watch mother nature, and just be with beauty all around, and in this place, I sure pray for everyone in here, and those who arent and are in need in this World.

I suppose I always did it since being a kid, but it gives me a sense of peace in such a hectic World that seems alien to me, so I just like sometimes to be alone in the wilderness, but it is beautiful to be there in my thoughts.

take care,

ste
 
Jasper:

Anyone who thinks that survivors don't get into discussions of their feelings and problems hasn't been reading those posts. Please do.
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This is not what I was trying to say. I know we all talk about our issues here in what ever way we can. I was making a point about the recent (1 week) feelings and atmosphere here.

It is true I have never gone into the Gay survivor area simply because I am scared of what I will find. I have always questioned my own sexuality and i think that being in there may be too much for me at the moment. However, I appreciate your invitation and when I am ready I will go there.


James: Yes I agree totally and am sorry you have not felt totally comfortable talking about your problems.

John: I was trying to add to your post. I was not trying to suggest that they are different things. I thought that me putting these thoughts in a new post was better because I did not want to take away from the real sentiment of your call to arms. I used your call as a reference because I thought it was appropriate.

Ste. : What can I say. Of all the guys here you are the one I talk to the most. I am truly sorry that your week has been so difficult. I am happy that you can find beauty in the natural things that surround you.

To every one else, Keep on this journey, together we will arrive.

Jonathan
 
I think sometime, something happens, and maybe we are not thinking of it, but we seek sometime something to distract us. And what happen here this week, it is good for that. I do not mean that people do not feel truly of what has happened. But we are still here. Anyone reading this, right now, is STILL HERE. Our journey is not over. Our healing is not done. We can keep ourself distant from our own issues as long as we want, and they do not go away. Only we can make them go away, and only by working at them, not ignoring them.

Andrei
 
Truly well said Andrei.

I think that maybe you might have a career in counseling one day. Your insight at 20 is truly astonishing.
 
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