assaulted ????

assaulted ????
James_dup1

James_dup1

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Hey guys,
I was reading a post here and it got me to thinking, mostly because of what I have gone through with my wife in the last few months. I wonder how many of us as survivor's have suffered assault by our partner's and just because we are the man we let it happen. I found some stats on the net and would like to list them here.

Several studies show that Men are assaulted by their girlfriends or wives as often as women are assaulted by their boyfriend of husband:

In 42% to 45% of cases of abuse the wife hit first whereas in 44% to 53% of the cases, the husband hit first

167,000 men were the victims of assault by an intimate partner in 1994

12.4% of husbands surveyed reported some type of physical assault. In addition, 4.8% reported severe violence
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Often, men are afraid of the embarrassment or ridicule that might come along with admitting that they have been abused by a woman. They are taught that a real man wouldn't let his wife get away with hitting him but in most cases the opposite is true. Men who are in abusive relationships often refuse to hit their wife back and simply take the abuse thinking that she couldn't possibly do as much harm to him as he would do to her if he retaliated.
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Boy does that sound like me. You know when my wife went to jail the cops looked at me like I had lost my mind for calling them. And it was just because Im a man. So I guess not only are not abused as boy but we are not assaulted as husbonds either. What are we?

So I'll say from first hand experence. If your wife/boyfriend hits you, shoves you, or hurts you in anyway out of anger then please try to take a step back and look at your life and where you want it to go. Just like we didnt diserve what them sicko's did to us as boys.....you dont diserve to keep being abused by the one person that is sopose to love you no matter what. Just a thought.
James

PS: Here the link to the web page just in case you would like to read it for your self. Just remember your not alone with being assaulted either. Just look at the numbers.
(((hugs)))

https://www.pitt.edu/~frieze/maleabuse.htm
 
Yes, James, thank you for posting this, and for speaking so honestly of it. Also, everyone should remember the world we live in. It is not always a safe place, and not safer just because we are not children anymore. Adult men are assaulted as well. Adult men are targeted by such things as 'date rape' drugs. Everyone needs to be careful, and always be thinking, always be alert to the unexpected.

Leosha
 
As a fellow male victim of spousal abuse, I understand.

More Stats: 2,000,000 U.S. men a year are severely assualted by their female mates. That's a man kicked, bitten, hit with a fist or object, beaten up, and had a knife, gun, or other deadly weapon used or threatend to be use against them every 15.7 seconds.* A similar survey show 270,000 male victims of domestic violence a year.**

*National Family Violence Survey, 1989
**University of Calagary, Dept. of Sociology, 1990.

How Men Cope
Take on an "I can handle it" attitude.
"Men Don't Tell"
Hiding From it

Why The Stay
Fear of failure
Fear for the Children
Few Resources

www.ncfm.org National Coalition of Free Men
www.safe4all.org Stop Abuse For Everybody
 
Realized about a month after i moved out that I was maybe, just maybe, being emotionally, psychologically, mentally, verbally abused. Don't forget the wounds and scars that abuse other than physical might leave. If you wanna see my wounds and scars, I'll tell you about them. They don't heal fast, and open up quite frequently, get infected and it's not good. I was reading a book called "Healing from the wounds of emotional abuse" by Nancy Benvenga. It's written by a woman, mostly for women. I tried to de-genderize it, but it's not possible for me to do that. Wish someone would write such a book for men.

Orodo
 
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