approaching the anniversary

approaching the anniversary
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beachman

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Hello. I have the misfortune of being a survivor of sexual assaults as a child and as an adult. It will be 5 years next Sunday that another man raped me. I have had some good counseling and I have a pretty good support network. Yet the past few days have been troublesome. I feel pretty safe but I don't want to venture out either. I think I just wanted to say all this "out loud", hoping for some additional understanding and sensitivity. Yes, I know I will be OK, but the pain is still here. Thanks. :confused:
 
Hello Beachman:

Welcome to MaleSurvivor. I am so sorry that these things happened to you. But I am glad you found your way here.

I know that anniversaries like this can be really painful. It's amazing though how much pain is lifted just as soon as the day itself has passed. Do you know what I mean? So that's important to keep in mind. And maybe while you are remembering the anniversary of the rape, you might want to think about the day ahead. Like think about what you will do the day after. And how you will reward yourself for making it through another anniversary. Does that make sense?

Also, this is the best place to come for additional understanding and sensitivity. There is a really great group of guys here and I'm sure you will be hearing from others on this board real soon.

Meanwhile, welcome!

Jasper
 
Jasper, thanks very much for your response and your message. I like that. Looking beyond, so helping me through the dread of that awful day. I WILL work on some planning so I can look forward to something special on the 11th.
Yes, I hope that this does become a nice place to return.
Steve
 
Hi Steve - Like Jasper said, sorry you need this place, but glad you found it. Something I try to keep in mind is that the worst is over. The abuse we suffered is over. We lived through that, we survived it and so much more. The anniversary, like so many other things, triggers strong emotions, but use them to honor what you have survived rather than to dwell on the horror that took place. You found the right place. Come here when you need to and I hope that the 10th comes and goes without too much difficulty. Peace - John
 
Thank you, John, and I appreciate your time and words. Yes, it is over and I did survive the physical and emotional traumas. It is those damn triggers of course. I try not to dwell in that place. And I will come back here.
Peace to you also,
Steve
 
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