Anyone else have this happen to them?
Holy crap, but I've made a bit of a mess of things.
For the last while, I was seeing a decline in physical attraction toward my wife (not on such good ground in the first place), which finally culminated in me feeling the flame go out one night. I sat on it for ages trying to understand what was happening, then trying to figure out how to tell her when I was sure.
First mistake was sitting on it. It ended up bursting out on the tail end of an argument and we damn near broke up that night.
Second mistake was not taking the time to look at the bigger picture. I hadn't noticed, but everything was in decline - romance, desire, attraction - looks like anything connected to attraction and the many things it weaves through.
Closest I can get to how it felt was that it was all slowly sinking into the depths of the sea and it was taking stronger things to punch through so I could feel anything in those sections. Now its all gone. Yesterday, I went out for errands and a really beautiful woman (as in, probably a model beautiful) stared me in the eyes.
Mentally, I recognized her beauty, recognized that this was someone I would have found attractive before, knew that she was looking at me in an interested way - something I'd ordinarily get a lift out of.
Emotionally, or in the area of desire and attraction: nothing, nada, zip.
Seems like just when I have finally been coming to terms with my feelings there, they're gone. Maybe to get worked on by whatever is stitching my memories back together.
Anybody else have something like this happen to them? How long did it last?
Got to tell you, feeling like a freaking eunuch is not a pleasant feeling.
For the last while, I was seeing a decline in physical attraction toward my wife (not on such good ground in the first place), which finally culminated in me feeling the flame go out one night. I sat on it for ages trying to understand what was happening, then trying to figure out how to tell her when I was sure.
First mistake was sitting on it. It ended up bursting out on the tail end of an argument and we damn near broke up that night.
Second mistake was not taking the time to look at the bigger picture. I hadn't noticed, but everything was in decline - romance, desire, attraction - looks like anything connected to attraction and the many things it weaves through.
Closest I can get to how it felt was that it was all slowly sinking into the depths of the sea and it was taking stronger things to punch through so I could feel anything in those sections. Now its all gone. Yesterday, I went out for errands and a really beautiful woman (as in, probably a model beautiful) stared me in the eyes.
Mentally, I recognized her beauty, recognized that this was someone I would have found attractive before, knew that she was looking at me in an interested way - something I'd ordinarily get a lift out of.
Emotionally, or in the area of desire and attraction: nothing, nada, zip.
Seems like just when I have finally been coming to terms with my feelings there, they're gone. Maybe to get worked on by whatever is stitching my memories back together.
Anybody else have something like this happen to them? How long did it last?
Got to tell you, feeling like a freaking eunuch is not a pleasant feeling.