anxiety and distraction

[onlyakid]

Do you find that one you get anxious about something that you don't necessarily need to deal with right away, you tend to distract yourself? Meaning you have to make a phone call maybe that makes you anxious but when you start to think about making the phone call you might start thinking of something else.

 

[akn]

Yep, all the time. So much so that I could have written what you have. It is called avoidance and can be life wrecking. A good T will help you create strategies to get things done in time and on time.

best wishes

akn

 

[markgreyblue]

what i should want to say here -

is that - be careful to know when

making a phone call to cope with anxiety -

you should tell that person

i am feeling anxious -

like have a buddy or t

to talk to about it -

but not call someone to chat them up

because you are anxious-

they have their own thing going on - and

it's principally (in my book) unfair - to use them - if they don't know that you are calling to say hi - because you're freaking out about something - we're all managing..

sorry it sounds judgemental just not meant to be -

i believe that presence to your feelings is important - and respect all around for them - and what they are - is crucial -

but i fear to use those who would listen
- in a sense - it's being dishonest with yourself too -

cause you won't progress if you don't talk about it

never be alone with your feelings -

you may call someone when anxious -

but to not talk about it -

is to blanket it all - to everyone -

if that's why you're calling.

 

[roadrunner]

Jason,

If you mean procrastination, yes, it's a big problem for survivors. The way I see it is that a fear of failure or confrontation causes us to avoid the pressing issue and turn to something else as a way of avoiding the need to deal with the one threatening us. What's interesting is that the one we flee to and accomplish may have its own dangers and perils; but that one isn't the one pressing us at the moment.

Much love,
Larry