Another affirmation

[dac]

I am into affirmations these days. Here is my current one, they seem to help!

Affirmation 2:

I am strong! A survivor...

I am caring and thoughtful.

I am smart! My mind can conceive masterpieces of imagination and creativity.

I am amazing! and have accomplished an incredible amount in life given the start I was handed.

In the worst of times the light of hope was never extinguished.

I am resilient! Steel and iron! Titanium!!

This world is a better place because I have inhabited it.

My trauma has made me stronger, it has deepened me in ways that would not have been otherwise possible.

When my life was careening toward disaster and ruination I took control and guided it to safety and promise.

I am a survivor!

Tormented as a child, abused at home and school, beaten and bullied as I grew into adulthood, I rose above the storm.

And, even after all that has happened, I have a heart that feels, cares and loves.

Unbroken, I look to the future with hope, understanding and compassion, for myself as well as others.

I am worthy of any good fortune that finds me. I am deserving of love, kindness, and friendship.

I am a survivor!

My story is an amazing story. My misfortune has become my pride.

I have much to be grateful for, much to be thankful for, much to appreciate in this life, and I am deserving of it all.

 

[Can_I_Do_This]

Fantastic job, Dac, all of us can use all the self-affirmations we can get. GREAT LIST!

This, my friends, is EXACTLY what it takes to get us thru the quagmire of our abusive wounds and into the future as whole, healthy, balanced MEN.

It doesn't matter if you believe it or not, you just need to DO IT, every day. I started intense self-loving a year ago and the results have been amazing. I'm on the cusp of a huge breakthrough.

"Coming out" to my Mother about her sexual abuse on me was FREEING! Damn, why have I spent my entire life carrying around this secret, this shame, for something I didn't even do? Why am I protecting her by concealing the truth? She's a grown up, she can accept the fact that I'm not gonna skirt around the issue anymore: Mom's a fucking pedophile and I was her target.

This "coming out" is, I know in my heart, one of the final and primary healing steps in my full and unstoppable recovery. I plan to talk to my therapist about how to best approach my parents. I need to spell it all out for them. I haven't spent the last two solid years working on myself only to reach this point and not follow through. They both need to know exactly how their actions affected every decision I've ever made.

What they did, basically, was use me as a child, then set me loose in a big bad world with laughably insufficient coping skills.

I feel like a brand new boy, a brand new man, like this is a new start, for real. Simply realizing I have the God-given right to banish any toxic influences, including immediate family, has made me realize I'm almost there.

Yesterday morning I felt a new emotion in my chest, a feeling I've never experienced before. It felt silver and shiny and positive. My instant thought was to recognize it as my "radiance."

Today's intentions are to work on finding what brings the radiance out, to focus on my posture of confidence and owning my personal space, and focusing on my masculinity.

Wishing all of us a great day. Great stuff, Dac, thanks!

 

[dac]

Thanks CIDT, I love what you wrote too. I feel like a new man as well. Born at 61 haha!

 

[Can_I_Do_This]

It's never too late! I'm 54. Weird how CSA starts "coming back" to so many of us later in life. I wish I'd done all this in my 20s.

My primary thing is to control the RAGE I feel at my parents for throwing me into the world abused and unprepared. I really want to forgive them but that'll come in good time when -- and if -- I ever get there.

Until then I'm my own Dad, my own Mom, my own wife, my own siblings. I treat myself as if I were these people inside, and I am. It's totally possible to re-parent yourself, become your own parents and give yourself the love and support they were too damaged to offer.

That's why DAILY positive affirmations and a dedicated self-love routine are essential. I laughed at the idea -- standing in front of a mirror telling myself I love myself is going to change things?

Well, it works, for me anyway. Glad it's working for you, too, Dac. "Fake it 'till you make it." If you fake it long enough it becomes real. I didn't REALLY love myself last year when I started, but I do now. You start believing the truth: that we are worthy.

 

[dac]

Yes! I feel like you too, wishing I had started this whole process decades ago, but better late than never I guess. It makes me happy to read of your progress.

 

[Tom E.]

Awesome affirmations! I will try this too.

 

[dac]

Thank you, Tom E.