After posting about my abuse months ago I believed I was healing through therapy, now I am consumed with thoughts of sexual involvement but now can’t orgasm with masturbation. I am seeing a urologist next week. Can anyone advise how to approach this appointment? How are you examined and what is the treatment in and will they shame me for being a later in life male virgin? Will I be examined by male or female urologists or nurses? Anyone relate? Or am I all alone here?