Lately been alternating back and forth between anger at women and shame of being a man. I don't know what I'm trying to prove or to whom, but the more I think about it the more confused I have. There are messages like it's ok for women to hate women because of the millenia of opression. The evidence says otherwise - the vast majority of men in history were opressed as well, and when women have been in charge they aren't necessarily any better - or worse - then the male rulers. I've thought about the concept of disproof strenghtening irrational beliefs - say all the more scientific and other evidence to the Earth's roundness sonly makes the flat earthers double down even harder. I think instead of "men/women/whatever" need to change I think it would be more productive for everyone to say "this is what I/we would like men/women to know". I can only (slowly) change my own thoughts and anyone who won't listen doesn't deserve my time. I can control who is in my life.