an ephiany (good news)

an ephiany (good news)
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so idk why but i wasjust thinking and i just realized
sex is something special
and i wanna share it with Jarrod, and only Jarrod,

as good news as this is, and as good as it makes me feel that i can admit all of that to myself
i still dont think i can let myself do that stuff to him, it still feels wrong :/
but at least im making SOME progress, right?
//josh
 
Josh,

Yes, and just by talking about this issue you are making good progress.

You haven't told us much, but I can so identify with how you feel. When I was first with a girl sexually (I was 16) she was anxious to have sex but I could not do it. I was thinking: "This is what the abuser did". Fortunately, we were very close and we were able to talk about things. As it turns out, neither of us were ready and we were both relieved and willing to wait.

Think to yourself if this is what you really want, if you want to share yourself with Jarrod to this degree of intimacy. And if this is what you want, are you ready?

And talk to Jarrod as well. Is this what he really wants, and is he ready? If the two of you are at ease with the idea, then I see nothing wrong with the idea of going ahead. Forget the temptation to think that if you are 17 then you are SUPPOSED to want sex. What's important is that the two of you do what's right for both of you.

Much love,
Larry
 
It is progress indeed, Josh.

Sex is something very special. There are a lot of good and healthy emotional things that happen between two people when they participate in sex in a mutually giving way. Conversely, when we trivialize that special connection by jumping into bed with anyone and everyone who is willing, we do great damage to those emotional parts of us that long for that exclusive and special connection with that special someone.

I know that sounds a bit old fashioned, but I think you have discovered the truth of it yourself and posted about it. Larry has offered some good advise regarding this also.

Proud of you, Bro.

Lots of love,

John
 
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