Am i a survivor cos i didnt die?

Am i a survivor cos i didnt die?
Mr. Whiskers it is not that at all. We just cant bear the thought that you are contuing to be used by these god damned perverts.

Personally when I was 18-21 I was a male whore and sold myself to the meanest kinkiest assholes I could find. I know what that did to me.

Mr. Whiskers you have a whole life ahead of you and you do not deserve being treated the way you are. For that matter nobody does.

Please do not think that we are anything but your friend.
 
mrwhiskers,
i hope you can forgive us for putting you in a really terrible spot and making you feel you had to do something you were not ready to do. we made a mistake in that respect and i know i am very sorry for hurting your feelings. it sounds shallow, i know, but i did not intend to make you feel like you had to do something to be my friend, except to be who you truly are. you were being who you truly are and only wanted a friend, not someone else to tell you what to do. we are scared for you and your brothers and sometimes when people get scared they don't think straight. when i was writing to you earlier all i saw was an innocent young man who was in pain and in danger and i wanted to make it all better for you and your brothers. what i forgot to see was that you only wanted a friend. if there can be a second chance at friendship, there is still the beach... :) .
 
Mrwhiskers,

No one here on this board implied that you were a bad person nor are we instructing you as what to do,everything is your choice and we all want to listen and be a friend to you.I am thankful that your brothers are not being abused it is not easy to stop the abuse of yourself let alone another brother, I know, I tried and was almost killed when I tried, abuser was a navy seal and for the consequences of him trying to kill me I now have to live with a surgical fix.Everything is in your hands and it will not be easy getting out of your situation especially with it being a family member that makes it all that much more tough verses a stranger,your abuse is happening by someone you have to be with every day also you have to eat with them and live with them.My abuser drank heavily and during my abuse my grades in school declined and for that I later paid when trying to get into college (scholarships).I also as well as many other brothers here have used what we brothers would classify as "Helpers to get us thru" better known as chemical stimulants (drugs and alchohol).All of us brothers have indeed questioned our sexual identity and many of us in the back of our heads quietly asked to ourselves "What did I do to deserve the abuse or Did I look "Good" for the person to abuse me?

All too often the abusers program this into all our heads to make us think that our abuse had something to do with us and that we deserved the abuse,all too often the cops and District Attorneys all bring this into question as well and then play it in front of a jury to make us go and re-think the way we feel and what was programed into our minds by our abusers.Familiar abuse is even worse as it plays on the mind as did I give my family member the signal that I wanted their approval or their affection as we grew up,in one way or another we all do this growing up such as look to our father or mothers for their approval with good grades in school or asking permission for certain things such as wanting to spend time with other friends outside the house or as we got older and matured asking to spend the night at a friends house,all these things causes the person who abuses us to prey upon a vunerable child who is at the mercy of the adult in charge over us this is wrong and the abuser uses this towards their advantage point and there are many others but these are ones right off the top of my head especially watching nephews and nieces grow older.

You are a great person and don't let anyone tell you otherwise and you don't deserve the abuse you are sustaining.The brotherhood is just trying to watch out for you as we brothers look out for our own and we don't like to see another brother get harmed or hurt,please understand that this is all that was meant by everyones post earlier please don't be upset and please forgive us all if you meant it this way.
 
Little brother,

NEVER was it my intention to make you feel badly. You feel badly enough, and I will NEVER reject you for doing what you feel you have to do. You feel badly enough, and it's NO FAULT OF YOUR OWN.

We speak from experience, little brother. We KNOW how you feel. We've been in the same place you are. No hope, feeling like you're cornered, etc. From my own experience, I've felt it. I know, and it hurts us SO much to see you there.

We just want you and your brothers out of there, little bro. We don't want the LIES they've told you to hang on a moment longer than necessary. And you should NEVER believe them! You are a worthy person stuck in one Hell of a situation, and we want it to STOP for both you and your brothers' sakes.

Sadly, Whiskers, we also speak from experience in another regard as well: we know the monsters who are doing this to you WILL NOT STOP with you. They've threatened and frightened you into keeping quiet, even from your brothers. Sadly, they MAY have done that with them. You CAN'T know. Not for sure. Don't you already have doubts? Isn't that whay you're so angry at the suggestion?

Brother, you may have protected them for now, but I KNOW these people. We know these people. We've experienced them, same as you. As long as they think they can get away with what they're doing , THEY WILL NOT STOP! They won't stop until the law stops them.

Brother, Taz and Theo are good men. Listen to them if you won't me. I can't make you do anything you're not ready to do. And you're not ready. Okay, it hurts me, but I accept that and you. I do care, little bro. But please know you can PM me or ANY ONE of the guys here and they'll help you. We'll do what we can to help you.

And, yes, I live in Boston and I've been to the ocean. I don't know if you live on the east coast, west coast, or middle of the country, but there's nothing more beautiful than staring at the ocean from shore. They say that the Atlantic is different from the Pacific, that it's a brighter blue and colder than the Pacific. That's true to an extent, but when you wade in and get past the cold surface, the water underneath is warm, inviting, and life-supporting.

That's as good an example of the world as I can think of. You've experienced so much of the cold, evil side of human beings, but there are warm, caring people who'll do what they can for you. The brothers here are examples of this, and know that ANY ONE OF US would sell their SOULS to do what's right for you.

Please stay with us and keep posting little brother. That's the first step. Always keep talking and don't let the poison stay in you ONE SECOND LONGER. We'll listen. We'll ALWAYS listen.

Peace and love, little brother. I care.

Scot
 
Hi Mr. Whiskers,

Thanks for hanging in there with us. We're all pretty upset because of what's happening to you and how it happened to us too. And just like you would do anything to protect your little bothers, we feel the same way about you as our little brother. I'm sorry that we're having a hard time hearing what "you" want.

Can I make a suggestion? I think you'll have a better chance of getting what you need right now if you send Private Messages (PMs) to one or some of us.

The only thing that matters right now MR W. is that you come to know that we all love you and accept you just the way you are..no matter what!
We want you to share with us. We want you to have safe place to come to whenever you need to.
And there's "nothing" you have to do to get our love and support. It's just here...for all of us.

So keep talking little bro and I hope you can be patient with us when our hearts are breaking too and we want so much to protect you.

Taz
 
Please dude get some help now and dont suffer.and keep in touch.don't put your self through this crap ok? Love 2 u. Scott C. from Australia.
 
Mr Whiskers - we are not going to get mad at you, we just want the best for you. Sorry if you think anyione is pushing you to do things, we don't want to apply pressure to you. Whatever you need here, we will support you in it - sorry if I upset you, that is not my intention.

Best wishes ..Rik
 
Mr. Whiskers,

Let me tell you this...

The decisions in your life are yours to make.

They are not your mothers, not the johns, not mine. They are yours too make.

It's our wish that you not go through this. This is not a good way to be living, by your own admission. It is not good for you and it is not good for your little brothers.

I would hope that you seek safety for you and your brothers, but that is a decision you must make.

Take care,
Bill
 
Mr Whiskers,

You must have a lot of love for your brothers. You say that you hate doing this, and I understand why you would hate it. I think I understand why you would do it, though. I am older than all my brothers and sisters.

What scares me is that someday, someone may decide that Danny or Joel is prettier than your mom, prettier than you. As you say, the abusive people are pretty powerful around where you are.

You are a survivor because you have a strength inside that won't let you down. You have used that strength to keep yourself going while you protect your brothers.

I will not tell you what you should do. You will have to decide what to do. There are people who can help you stop the abuse, if that is what you choose. I hope that you and your brothers will have a chance to live your lives free from abuse and fear of abuse.

We will be here to listen if you just need a place where you can say stuff.

Thanks,

Joe
 
911...speed dial it.

it's a crime-whats happenin 2 you.

[email protected].

CONTACT RAINN For a counselor: Call 1.800.656.HOPE, extension one

good luck.
 
Mr. Whiskers,

I am very sorry of the situation you are in. I can relate (minimally) to it. The person who sexually abused me for many years, he told me that if I allowed him to do that, that he would not harm any of the other children he coached. And I believed him, and allowed him to abuse me until I left there at 18. It was only this last year that I learned he had been abusing others all along, the same time. I am hoping the same is not occuring with your brothers. And even if it were not, you yourself are important enough to get help. I am also from a poor family, although my only sibling died when I was four. I know that you feel you are protecting and preserving things for them. But this is to important. Please follow the advice of the men here, and get help for yourself. I will be wishing you well. Please PM me if you would like. I am not orignially from this country, so do not know I can help you so much in the legal sense, but will try to help any way I can.

leosha
 
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