After reading these posts........

After reading these posts........
Hauser

Hauser

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I can't BELIEVE how easy I've had it compared to some of you guys!!!! My God! Shadowkid's stories make my stories very small in comparison.

And yet, with only the seemingly minor abuse I recieved, I think has totally altered my life!

Marginal employment, drug use, alcohol abuse, failing grades, college dropout, no intimate relationships, nothing accomplished, just getting by.

I'm about to tell my partents, (who have paid cash to help me figure out what's wrong with me, via psychological/learing tests), that, when the report comes in with their recommendations, that they're going to say that I need to see a "specialist" in a "certain field".

I'm glad that I read that "consumers guide" to finding a therapist, I will ask some of those questions for sure.

I think I will tell them that I already know what the evaluation is going to say. I hate thinking about this but it has to be done if I'm going to move on and improve myself. I don't see any other way, I'm up against a wall.
 
Hauser - everyone of us here has endured experiences that we should not have! One of the first things that I learned here, was that we do not need to put our experiences on a scale of 1-10 of who experienced the 'worst stuff'.

We experienced it and it has impacted upon evryone of us - we are all real people, important people with lives to live. My suffering was and is my suffering but it is equal to yours, not better or worse. We all have to loose our guilt. I look forward to the day that everyone hear could say they were recovered and can live the life they were meant to live.

If someone was only abused once, and that abuse was very mild...that was still once too much!

Before I came to this site, I used to wish that I had been violently attacked rather than groomed into the abuse process... thinking that somehow that would have made it all easier to understand.

I know from the time that I have spent here, that it is not good to be groomed or attacked - neither action is easy to understand.

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Understood. I wished only to put my situation in percpective and that was the first thing that came to mind.

Part of that for me, also, is the notion that I have for a longest time dismissed the consequences of it. Hence, in the back of my mind, I always felt I could rise above it and do what ever I wanted to do. This is obviously not the case, for me anyway.
 
Hauser,

As we see more clearly how complicated the consequences of abuse are, a lot of other things in our lives start to make sense. As Rik says, there is no scale for the suffering we endure. Each of our cases is unique.

Starting therapy is scary and challenging, but worth the effort. You will see that so much for which you blame yourself was never your failing at all, and that many of the feelings you have - especially about yourself, are the results of what happened to you and not the real you.

Good luck. I know you will do well.

Much love,
Larry
 
Thank you guys.........I have a positive feeling about this whole thing.........I'm just anxious!!!

Part of me can't WAIT to get started and the other side (pretending to be pragmatic) says:

"What's the point?....The damage has already been done"

AND

"What's talking about it gonna do"?
 
i don't think there is a difference either ,we all got hurt ,just some in different ways than others .the feeling of getting betrayed is the same shadow
 
I understand anxious. I was so anxious to get going in therapy once I had made that decision I couldn't wait. and yet when the day came it was the last thing I wanted to do and the last place I wanted to be. The same was true when I started Group Therapy. I was glad till that day then I made myself sick with dread. Crazymaker running amok again. But for the most part it has all been good.

Courage Friend,

John
 
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