after 29 years I still have a bad time

[OKIE MIKE]

Saturday was ythe 29th aniversery of me being raped . I still am looking for the SOB that raped me . I have His name and age . But He has a very comon last name (Hernandez)There are several hundred people that fit the name and age
He should be about 62 / 63 by now . Haveing him locked up for his crime , and raped every day for a couple of years would not bother me a bit .
At this time of year things get rough for me to deal with . I some times wish that I was killed all of those years ago .I was Mentaly & phicialy harmed by this. The phisical pain has healed . But the mental pain does not seem to ever heal . I still have trouble with trust issues. I dont alow my self to get into certain situations . Some people say that I am porinoid
I say that I am protecting my self .

 

[roadrunner]

Mike,

I am so sorry you have to go through this every year. Clearly you need some closure where the abuser is concerned, but I have no idea how you would get it for something that cocurred so long ago.

The army probably won't have publicly accessible records going back that far, but the family name plus dates and the location where he would have been posted would surely narrow it down and, in fact, would probably reveal the person you are looking for. But how would you gain access to the information, short of hiring a lawyer, which would become very expensive?

Even if you found the abuser, I'm not sure what could be done at this point. Do you know the statute of limitations for the state where the rape occurred?

Perhaps you could seek closure in some other way. The man who abused me, for example, died in 1994, and that was very frustrating for me. But finally what I did was write a letter to him, burn it, and scatter the ashes over his grave. That helped me a lot, I have to say. If you have a T, perhaps you could discuss ideas and find something that would help you.

Much love,
Larry