Afraid to go outside?

[yungdoc]

With all the talk in the media about predators here, predators there, predators everywhere....from our churches, to our schools, now to our Congress (U.S.), is anybody else almost afraid to go outside? I used to think that my father was the only one I had to look out for, but it's getting to the point now where I don't know who I can trust. And I used to want children one day, but now I'm really having second thoughts because I don't know if I would be able to protect her/him from all the sick, sick people out there. I swear, there better be something better than this in the next life.

 

[phoster]

i dont fear so much, but i am very aware of how many bad people are out there. we are very protective of our kids. basically we dont leave them alone with anyone other than my wife's mother, and on rare occasions my aunts. they are people we trust and know wont hurt them. other than that, they are never alone with anyone. that isnt saying something bad can't happen, but we do all we can to make sure it doesnt.

 

[roadrunner]

yungdoc,

One thing that helps me on this subject is to bear in mind that while the acts of one predator will capture worldwide attention, the ordinary everyday behavior of 100 good people will pass unnoticed - it's not "newsworthy".

Once evil has reached out to devastate your life, it's difficult to get past the idea that we will forever remain as vulnerable as we were when we were kids. I think it comes down to the task of relearning how to trust and how to keep safe boundaries.

Much love,
Larry

 

[shadowkid]

if more parents were like you the predators wouldnt have any prey. good job dude!

 

[roadrunner]

GoFigure,

I'm sure you are doing this anyway, but just to add here: It's really important that a boy know that he can come to his parents with ANYTHING and they won't shout at him, disbelieve him or blame him. He will feel that way if he's made to feel wanted, safe, important and very VERY special - all for who he is right now.

Much love,
Larry

 

[markgreyblue]

i have been afraid to go outside

kind of the fear and loathing of the world sort -

now that i am far away from everything of the past -

it's all good. in terms of nature - and life -

give to me - and also - the bad guys - don't really mess with me -

i have nothing to loose now - and so if someone wants a fight -

i'll give them the best of their lives!

even though i'd rather be makin' art or

feeding funny black squirrels

they're great !

 

[Forrest_Gump]

similiar case with me and it just gets worse with time from persons noe it is now places i dont go to certain places because it triggers me off erc

 

[Forrest_Gump]

as regarding this about not getting married i some time about the same thing and sometimes i demure i do need human companionship the warmth and the love of a fellow being

 

[thwap]

I ahve been afraid to go out of my apartment lately, but it isn't anything outside of my door that is scaring me, rather it is an internal fear. Some sort of anxiety that might very well be steeped in shame. I haven't figured it out yet, but my T said it was kind of normal so I am cool with it. Come to think of it, over the past week it seems to be going away. Sweet! Thanks for reminding me!