Affirmations
MrDon
Registrant
Note: This is going in for my next article in the Chorus, the Voices Organization newsletter.
Affirmations
DonS
An affirmation can be described as a strong, constructive, positive statement made to help realize goals. To affirm is to make an assertion or declaration, as if already true, about something that one desires to actualize. That is what I learned in class the other night and what was written on pg 30 of my TouchAbilities, Essential Connections book by Iris Burman and Sandy Friedland. You know, this is something that I have been long acquainted with in my life but have never really thought long and hard about it.
I remember back to the days that I struggled to even think anything positive about myself which was preventing me from going outside and being around people. I did not like myself and you could probably even say that I hated myself during this time. I did not see any value, just ugliness from my past. No matter how much I talked about this in therapy, it just didnt seem to make a difference. Regardless, I had myself convinced that I was nothing, I was dirty, ugly, and responsible for everything that had happened to me. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy and the more I believed it, the more it became me. So what did I do, read on.
Shaina Noll has a CD called Songs For The Inner Child with a song on it titled, How Could Anyone. The words go like this.
How could anyone ever tell you?
You were anything less than beautiful.
How could anyone ever tell you?
You were anything less than whole
How could anyone fail to notice?
That your loving is a miracle.
How deeply youre connected to my soul.
Why do I share this with you? Well Im glad you asked. What I did for a month was listen to this song over and over. I would play it in the morning before I went to work and when I got home from work. I would listen to the song and usually try to sing it since no one else was around to hear me. But after the month went by, I found that for the first time I started believing that I was worth something and how could anyone ever tell me that I was anything different than that. Once I started believing this and letting it sink into my life, I started to change. That was the point where I began to once again venture out around people and beyond the 4 walls of my fortress I called a home. From that point on, my life has taken a new course that has led me to discover many new oceans. Some of which right now are a direct result of this time.
And as we were talking about affirmations in my class, I realized that I have been doing this a lot through my healing. Ive created affirmations for myself and used them to help me go places where my logical, afraid, self could not go. So many times when fear paralyzed me from taking a step, the affirmation would go before me. Just think in your mind for a second how powerful that could be. You dont have to be any special writer or talented person to do this. All you have to do is let yourself be yourself and focus on what you want for your life.
In class we were all asked to create an affirmation for ourselves. Currently I still struggle hard with having the confidence in life to do what I need to do. While it has improved, I get so scared at times and would love to be more confident. So it is the example I will use here and the one I will share for you. My affirmation was I AM CONFIDENT. Yes, I dont feel that way right now but I continue to repeat this to myself each day and before long, it will be the direction my body will be going. Because the more I tell myself that I am confident, the more my body will take on the necessary skills, qualities and resources to be confident.
Take a moment right now as you are reading this and think about an affirmation for yourself. Maybe you have to much debt and the affirmation could be I am wealthy or maybe you are a couch potato and want to be fit as a fiddle the affirmation could be I am healthy or I am physically fit. Maybe you struggle with hating yourself and your affirmation could be I love myself. The possibilities are enormous and as wide as the widest ocean. The power lies with in you and all you have to do is turn the facet and tap into it.
An affirmation should be something that is a simple statement. That way you can remember it easily and repeat it without much effort or thought. It should be a statement of positive thoughts and words. For instance if you are in debt, you would not want to use the phrase I want to be debt-free because your mind would still be focusing on the debt which is not a positive thought. Instead, I am wealthy would be a more positive statement. Make sure your affirmation is personal to you and make sure you can own it. Once youve created it, try to find a safe person that you can share it with because the power of the words will be multiplied many times over. And once youve done all of this, than start repeating it to yourself every day until it becomes you and you become it.
You know I often struggled through my healing with wondering where the answers were to many of the things that I faced or how I should heal or what things I needed to do to heal. But I am finding more and more that all of the time, the answers were right inside of me. They were already a part of me. Your body knows what you need and by tapping into the strength and wisdom each one of us has; we can grow and soar in ways that will amaze us.
Affirmations
DonS
An affirmation can be described as a strong, constructive, positive statement made to help realize goals. To affirm is to make an assertion or declaration, as if already true, about something that one desires to actualize. That is what I learned in class the other night and what was written on pg 30 of my TouchAbilities, Essential Connections book by Iris Burman and Sandy Friedland. You know, this is something that I have been long acquainted with in my life but have never really thought long and hard about it.
I remember back to the days that I struggled to even think anything positive about myself which was preventing me from going outside and being around people. I did not like myself and you could probably even say that I hated myself during this time. I did not see any value, just ugliness from my past. No matter how much I talked about this in therapy, it just didnt seem to make a difference. Regardless, I had myself convinced that I was nothing, I was dirty, ugly, and responsible for everything that had happened to me. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy and the more I believed it, the more it became me. So what did I do, read on.
Shaina Noll has a CD called Songs For The Inner Child with a song on it titled, How Could Anyone. The words go like this.
How could anyone ever tell you?
You were anything less than beautiful.
How could anyone ever tell you?
You were anything less than whole
How could anyone fail to notice?
That your loving is a miracle.
How deeply youre connected to my soul.
Why do I share this with you? Well Im glad you asked. What I did for a month was listen to this song over and over. I would play it in the morning before I went to work and when I got home from work. I would listen to the song and usually try to sing it since no one else was around to hear me. But after the month went by, I found that for the first time I started believing that I was worth something and how could anyone ever tell me that I was anything different than that. Once I started believing this and letting it sink into my life, I started to change. That was the point where I began to once again venture out around people and beyond the 4 walls of my fortress I called a home. From that point on, my life has taken a new course that has led me to discover many new oceans. Some of which right now are a direct result of this time.
And as we were talking about affirmations in my class, I realized that I have been doing this a lot through my healing. Ive created affirmations for myself and used them to help me go places where my logical, afraid, self could not go. So many times when fear paralyzed me from taking a step, the affirmation would go before me. Just think in your mind for a second how powerful that could be. You dont have to be any special writer or talented person to do this. All you have to do is let yourself be yourself and focus on what you want for your life.
In class we were all asked to create an affirmation for ourselves. Currently I still struggle hard with having the confidence in life to do what I need to do. While it has improved, I get so scared at times and would love to be more confident. So it is the example I will use here and the one I will share for you. My affirmation was I AM CONFIDENT. Yes, I dont feel that way right now but I continue to repeat this to myself each day and before long, it will be the direction my body will be going. Because the more I tell myself that I am confident, the more my body will take on the necessary skills, qualities and resources to be confident.
Take a moment right now as you are reading this and think about an affirmation for yourself. Maybe you have to much debt and the affirmation could be I am wealthy or maybe you are a couch potato and want to be fit as a fiddle the affirmation could be I am healthy or I am physically fit. Maybe you struggle with hating yourself and your affirmation could be I love myself. The possibilities are enormous and as wide as the widest ocean. The power lies with in you and all you have to do is turn the facet and tap into it.
An affirmation should be something that is a simple statement. That way you can remember it easily and repeat it without much effort or thought. It should be a statement of positive thoughts and words. For instance if you are in debt, you would not want to use the phrase I want to be debt-free because your mind would still be focusing on the debt which is not a positive thought. Instead, I am wealthy would be a more positive statement. Make sure your affirmation is personal to you and make sure you can own it. Once youve created it, try to find a safe person that you can share it with because the power of the words will be multiplied many times over. And once youve done all of this, than start repeating it to yourself every day until it becomes you and you become it.
You know I often struggled through my healing with wondering where the answers were to many of the things that I faced or how I should heal or what things I needed to do to heal. But I am finding more and more that all of the time, the answers were right inside of me. They were already a part of me. Your body knows what you need and by tapping into the strength and wisdom each one of us has; we can grow and soar in ways that will amaze us.