ADVICE

[Mike Church]

I debated putting this in the OFF TOPIC FORUM BUT DECIDED IT WAS BETTER HERE.

This is a safe place for survivors make no mistake about it. It is a place where you no longer are alone. All the Mods here do their best to keep it safe. There are ways we can all help. As you all know Trust is a huge issue with us. With this in mind I ask you all to pleae be very careful when it comes to giving personal information to anyone unless you are absolutely sure of their honesty.

There is something else too. If you receive a PM from someone on this site that you think is just not right, or offensive, or of an attacking nature, or appears to be prying into your privacy I ask that you promptly report it to any Mod.

As I said trust is huge with us and a betrayed trust can have a devastating affect on any of us.

This post is not meant to be a scare tactic. It is just common sense and information for those of us who are new here.

I might add that if any of the above occurs in chat please report it to a Chatroom Moderator.

 

[Lloydy]

I couldn't agree more.

Giving personal details to other people, who you possibly know nothing about at all - other than what THEY tell you - can be very dangerous.

I know that a number of people have been hurt very badly recently by events and actions that have taken place OFF SITE, but the initial contact was possibly here on MS.
Some of the problems then came back to MS.

We are working very hard behind the scenes to return MS to the level of safety it recently enjoyed, and much of that hard work has been made easier by you trusting the Moderators and passing your doubts and fears on to us, and I thank you all for that.
I believe that we have honoured your trust and acted with as much speed and discretion as we possibly could.

But recent problems have shown us just how fragile the community here at MS can be.
And try as we might, we can't hold complete responsibility for your safety here.
Much of that lies with you, the individual.

Please be aware that there are people who come here with problems that aren't immediately obvious, there are occassionally 'perps' that slip through the net - but we're getting very good at spotting them.

I know that some people will begin to trust others, and then wish to exchange their thoughts on a more personal basis, and if you are absolutely sure that YOU will be safe, then at the very minimum you should use a new email address that is only known to that other person. And if things go wrong you can delete it.

I would recommend that you NEVER disclose your home address and personal telephone number.

Dave

 

[ak]

Thank you for advice.

I was one person, who did not think so much. I come here, and I take it that everone here is what they say, who they say. And I give out to few people to much information. That is my fault, it is not fault of modoerators or of this site. It is my fault. Now I learn from it. And I am more careful of what I say, of what I do, of how much I tell of myself to people I do not know. There still are some people here who know more of me, and maybe even have my phone number (cellular phone only). They are people I have come to trust more in the year I been here, and still feel I can trust. But even that, if it go wrong, if it is someone really I should not trust, it is my error. I am just glad that it seem most the people I feel are right and feel I can trust, I truly think they are that way.

I think it is best safety for people to be careful with themself, their emotion, their information, until they know someone longer, and can have more the 'feel' of the person. If I had waited longer, I would have not shared so much with one person, because I get not so good 'feel' of him after little more time, and then it is to late. Always, you can decide to give more informatoin of yourself. But once it is given, you can never erase it from that persons head. So be careful before you ever give it.

Andrei