Advice Needed

[Ron_dup1]

I posted this in the Gay Survivor page by accident. I am not sure it really belongs only there so I am placing a copy here also. I really need some help sorting thru all my feelings and making a good and informed decision about my therapist. your replies are helpful, let me know what you think...
copy of message:
I have been seeing a therapist for about 2 years now and I just got some troubling news about him. It seems he had an affair with one of his female clients and she is now going after his license. I heard about it and asked him about it and he admitted it. So here is my question(s):
1. He had helped me a great deal over the past two years. Now I am not sure I can trust him. His actions bring up so many issues for me. I wonder if I should continue to see him or not? I wonder if talking with him NOW will help me deal with the issues this situation brings up or if it'll make it worse?
2. I don't know what it will mean if he looses his license... will I (and his other clients) be out in the cold looking for a new T anyway?
3. Is it unethical for me to continue seeing him when I know that he abused his power in this relationship with one of his other clients?
I am so confused and hurt by all of this I am not even sure I am making any sense at all in this post.
Thanks for listening and I would appreciate any comments you all have on the topic.
Ron
Comments by therapist would be greatly appreciated but all comments are helpful. Thank you.

 

[Lloydy]

Ron
two years of good therapy is a lot to give up, but the questions you raise are certainly valid.

The biggest one being (I think anyway ) what happens if he's struck off ? I suppose that if he's a member of a professional body then they might step in and make arrangements to continue your therapy elswhere. Small comfort.

As for trusting him if he does continue working, well I'd make it very clear that I was expecting the best standard possible from him. I think I'd demand something like one free session with him to discuss HIS behaviour, and how it's shaken your trust. Let hin know how you feel, you pay his wages.

Dave