Adult Childern of Alcoholics.

Adult Childern of Alcoholics.
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fmighell

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I'm not trying to lead you to believe that the phrase "'Adult Childern"" is an adult acting like a child. It's the other way around. A young child acting as an adult. Because the adults in the childs life is unable to act responsible, caring, or as a provider. Influence by alcohol adults who normally would not hurt a child may become irrational or loose inhibitions while drinking, or they may be too involved in drinking to take care of a child. A childhood filled with confusion and uncertainty, enduring a lot of pain both physical and emotional. The physical pain from bruises and welts on the body and the emotional feelings of emptiness, or guilt and or shame of a secret kept inside. Growing up or living in a seriously troubled or dysfunctional family environment often brings especially harmful affects to childern of alcoholics. Even as an adult child I could not stop the sex abuse.
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Fmighell
We grew up too quickly, in some ways. In others we are still growing, slowly.
And that's not our fault.
Lloydy
 
fmighell,
I too grew up in the constant insanity of an alcoholic home. From my earliest memories I was doing the laundry, cooking dinner, making sack lunches and walking my brothers and sister to school while mom was passed out cold. When she was coherent enough to function she was often just mean and hateful to all the children. There was one all important rule in my house, DON'T PISS OFF MOM! If mom was sleeping you had better not make a sound, because if you were responsible for awakening her there was hell to be paid. I was NEVER allowed to bring home a friend unexpectedly or have anyone over to spend the night, because you never knew what to expect with her. It was her drug and alcohol abuse that allowed the abuse to happen right in her own home and under her nose without her even noticing. I suppose it was the addiction that also allowed her to blame me and then act as if nothing ever happened once she did see the abuse. I still to this day react to certain situations like I did in her home some 20+ years ago. I hate the fact that she still has that much control over me, over how I feel, over how I react to things, over how I feel about myself. I am beginning to take that control back and it feels good!
Peace to all you who struggle with me.
Ron
 
Hi Fmighell,
I have grown up in an alcoholic and abusive family too and I thoroughly understand how you feel.In a way we have learned to grow up sooner than we ought and take charge of our lives.
Peace my fraternal brother and you are at the right place with the rest of your brothers to give a hand of support

alex
 
Hi Fmighell

I too grew up in a Dysfunctional Alcoholic home. Both my mother and step-perp were drunks. Eventually, I too became an alcoholic/addict. I did it so I didnt have to feel or deal with what I went through. Tried to burn or drown the images from my mind. I couldnt! I never learned how to block things from my mind although I'd give my left arm to know how. This past December 3rd I celebrated my 14th year sober in AA. It took me along time but here I am. So I know what you mean all too well!

And to Ron_dup1 hang in there brother! I now longer fear my mother. And here was a woman who put two bullets in me! When I had my epiphany...I relized I had survived everything she ever threw at me! The shooting, the broken bones, the torture and torment, the mental anguish...I survived everything her and that slime she married through at me. I was still here! I had won! I had even survived myself! I had nothing and no one left in this world to fear! It was the most liberating experience of my life!

To all my brothers out there...keep fighting! Take back your life and do more than survive...learn how to Live! Your worth it and you deserve it!
 
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