Admitting and accepting
KevinGKG
Registrant
So in the past couple of months I have let go of some deeper anger with my mom. I've admitted to myself and my T- some things that I really kept hidden. I knew them but I was sure that if no-one remembered it would fade away. But I remembered and it was always there. My sister and I spoke about it, obliquely at first but directly recently.
My sister and I have good communication and my T- has helped me process a lot. But while I am not at all close with my mom in her current life I have a little more peace with her. We can have a civil discussion on he phone- almost like normal people. I was concerned that would feel forced or fake. But, it doesn't. I still view her as a sort of stranger to me but one I can communicate with now. Her behavior toward my sister and I seems better too. She seems to repect the boundaries we've put in place and what sorts of contact and communication we'll agree to. So many things I can't change. So moving this direction seems good for now.
My sister and I have good communication and my T- has helped me process a lot. But while I am not at all close with my mom in her current life I have a little more peace with her. We can have a civil discussion on he phone- almost like normal people. I was concerned that would feel forced or fake. But, it doesn't. I still view her as a sort of stranger to me but one I can communicate with now. Her behavior toward my sister and I seems better too. She seems to repect the boundaries we've put in place and what sorts of contact and communication we'll agree to. So many things I can't change. So moving this direction seems good for now.