Addiction?

Addiction?
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Bobby

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Okay, let's get this out in the open. Ever since I started coming here, I keep coming here...a lot. Too much? That's what I'm asking. I seem drawn here. Every time I have a free moment, I'm here reading and writing and thinking. It's almost as if I feel that I have to be here. That doesn't sound healthy to me. I get a lot out of being here. It's just that I worry that I may be using the discussion board for the wrong reasons.
Does anyone else have that feeling? I'm new here and almost ravenous for contact with people who understand, so will the intensity gradually go away?
It's not affecting my life negatively or anything. I mean, I'm not staying home from work or giving up sleeping or any of that sort of thing. I just want to be here rather than almost any place else I can think of.
Any comments would certainly be appreciated.
Thanks, Bobby
 
Only you can determine if the amount of time you are spending with MS is unhealthy. However, it is certainly not unhealthy to enjoy the comfort, companionship, and insights of a group of people who understand many of your problems first hand and with whom you can simply be yourself with out fear of judgment.

For myself, I do a lot of photo editing and writing and would be at the computer anyway. It is easy for me to monitor MS and it is a nice break from some of my more tedious computer chores. MS has helped me to grow as a person in all aspects of my life and allows me to occasionally feel like I am doing good for others. If my computer were to break down and for some reason I could never return to MS I would not suffer withdraw, but Id miss the contact with some good friends that I have made here.

All that I can recommend is that you trust your own judgment. If MS continues to be a positive factor, dont worry about it. But if you start to notice negative effects, consider taking a break.

Aden
 
Bobby,

I am glad that you posted this. I have wondered the same thing you are, am I here too much? I feel about MS the same as you do, it's a Godsend!

I think Aden is absolutely correct, as long as it is a positve effect, don't worry about it. If it becomes a negative factor, take a break. That's going to be my game plan.

Good Luck, Bud,
 
Oh man! That happens all the time!

Sometimes I really feel like I need to be here and sometimes I don't. But I let it come and go and I don't worry about it.

There were times when I first got here that I would leave the discussion board page up while I did other stuff just waiting for one of those little light bulbs to light up.

reciently I noticed how often I was here but instead of worrying aobut it I took a step back to try to figure out why I felt the need to hang around so much. Well, when I thought aobut it I realized it was the time of year that I began working on my recovery.

Yes this place can be an addiction, but I think as long as you arren't avoiding family or obligations its fine. Otherwise you may want to set aside a particular day of the week to come visit and set a time limit.

Take care,
 
Bobby,

When first I joined I spent hours reading, some of the old posts and the stories were particularly helpful to me. I did think at one time that I was a little neglectful of my real life friends but I have gotten the balance about right again.

I had such a sense of relief reading some of the things here and it has helped me greatly knowing Im not the only one. The need to be here has become less intense now but it is still pretty strong and for me thats fine.

If its an addiction its one that is controllable and very healthy.

I am very greatful to my fellow addicts :) .

Rustam.
 
Bobby,

part of it to me is the simple beauty in relationship. I can tell by the reactions of others that finding something this intense to relate to with others awakens the realization that we need relationships with others, even if it's in this text environment. So to come here a lot and take in others' testimonies and accounts is very refreshing because there is a relationship that gets built on a common ground that the average person can't normally understand - and in a way it's good they can't because they likely didn't bear that abuse. It's the same thing when I attend my weekly gatherings with a bunch of other people. As far as I'm concerned, we could meet together three times a week and I would go all three times. One of the men at ou meetings has become one of my best friends, I thank God for him always.

Just my three cents worth (adjusted for inflation).
 
bobby - i have worried about the same thing -
but MS has been so helpful - it has been a life saver -
yes - you must decide for your self -
but i also agree -
it is a wonderful resource and place to come
and heal -

thanks for the post bobby-

mark
 
Bobby,

For awhile there I thought I was going to need to join a MSAnnoynomis group. ;) During rough times it seems that we need this place more. During the good times we don't seem to come around as much. But when we do need it, we know where to come... Here.

When I started I needed this place a lot. And I mean a lot. I used the boards, I used the chat room and it's a good thing they didn't charge by the hour. :p I have been know to spend 8 hours at a time in the chat room. I was the regular. It wasn't "hey Norm", it was "hey Bill". There is comfort in a place where everybody knows your name. (well, your nick).
As Aden said, only you can determine what is okay and what is too much. And if you need us, we are here. These are the greatest bunch of guys there is, full of support.

Take care,
Bill
 
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