Accussed of attention seeking by friend

[TrailofTears]

A female psychic friend has done an aura reading for me. I am a suvivor of severe long term sexual child abuse, and I have doctor diagnosed Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome and Major Depressive Disorder along with the PTSD. She says that my illnesses are my way of attention-seeking from other people. I feel really hurt by this commment she has made and would like to get some feedback from other survivors.
I will check back with you.
Thanks,
TrailofTears

 

[ForeverFighting]

And who exactly told her this? I'm not knocking your friend. It's just that if it's based on her own background and thinking, I know there are a lot of people who just cannot understand what we're going through even if they try. It sounds like this "aura reading" may have given your friend internal permission to express her thoughts on something she's not prepared to deal with. If it was more than that, then I'm not the one to comment.

I would feel hurt, too. If we were out to get attention, I can think of a lot of other ways I would choose to do that. (Like juggling?) Take care.

 

[Bobby]

I agree. If she's truly psychic, then she would know how remarks like that would hurt you. There are lots of easier ways to get attention. But, even if she really believes that you're doing all this for attention, if she's really your friend and wants to help you get better, what better way to help than to quit criticizing you for seeking attention and just give you some. Sorry, T, but her insensitivity towards you makes me angry. Bobby

 

[roadrunner]

ToT,

Your post just confirms my conviction that with certain friends on our side, who needs enemies?

Meaning no disrespect to your friend, I would say that she has no understanding of the harm her uninformed comments can cause for people who put their trust in her. Seeking attention? As FF rightly puts it, there are LOTS of ways to achieve that with much less trauma and effort.

For your own safety and peace of mind I would urge you to pay no more attention to this person, at least not where your abuse issues are concerned.

Much love,
Larry

 

[TrailofTears]

Thank you guys,

I was starting to doubt my own sanity for a minute. You see, I did flirt with her, I saw her pic and she is a bit younger than me, brunette which I like and attractive, but this psychic thing seems a little too far out there for me. When I wanted her attention I harmlessly flirted with her, but I never cried to anyone looking for sympathy, a little understanding or a bit of compassion perhaps, but that was when I was having a particularly bad day. I did not invent my illnesses. AND I would give them all up in half a heartbeat if I could!! I really do appreciate your help, I am going to calm down and talk to her about it and let her know she hurt my feelings.

Thanks so much!!!
ToT

 

[markgreyblue]

this was really poorly phrased - but think about

the source -

a psychic for pete's sake??

i mean -what degree in idiocy did she obtain

?

a lawnchair - and hooka?

please

um but on the subject of - attention seeking - even still - there's nothing wrong with that -

i know - that i realized i was attention seeking sometimes too -

i din't always realize it - with my emails -

-but was so buried in my head - in fear -
and whatever -

i didn't realize it - and it helped - the contact -

attention is a good thing -

i like attention -

but as maybe - tactlessly as this was put -

and really stupidly - i might add -

what i think it implies is what you already know

that you are working on healing -

that chronic fatigue is a sign you've been through a lot -

and slowly - as i do

you need to learn to prioritize and manage your energies -

through going to therapy et al...
and when i awoke to my drive -

it was a good thing - to know.
learning awarenesses - and getting past the

trauma and pain -

i mean - i don't have the answer -

but tough times -does sap your energy bigtime

keep talking ... !!

m

 

[FLRich]

Without reading any of the others' responses, I will tell you, "Get rid of your psychic friend!!" Chances are, she is neither.

 

[lostcowboy]

Hi ToT, I was wondering if you had heard of a book called The Yeast Connection by William G. Crook, M.D. In the book he talks about how if the balance of good germs to bad germs get out of balance in your intestines, that yeast can get out of hand, and cause all sorts of different diseases. You should be able to get the book at a used book store. He basically has you go on a no sugar, no starches diet. That is to help starve the yeast, and at the same time you start adding these active cultures to bring the good germs back to the proper levels. Once the good germs get settled in they will keep the yeast under control. In the book he has you take lactobacillus acidophilus, you can get it in health stores, I would also recommend the lifeway Kerfir, you can also try the danactive products. Wish you luck with your diseases. I myself have the form of Psoriasis that causes arthritis.

Take care,
Clifford

 

[Lloydy]

I'm with Rich on this one, I don't believe in psychics at all, and a friend wouldn't say those things without also giving you her reasoning.

Dave