? about posting that my PTSD is waning on Facebook

[bountiful1]

Hi All.

I am thinking of posting on that Facebook that my PTSD has been waning since February. I am wondering if that is an okay thing to do. I've had PTSD for most of my life, and think That I have nothing to be ashamed about - having it - I mean. I am so overjoyed at the fact that it is finally going away, and I want to share it. I'd appreciate any feedback on what you all think of doing that... Just to "friends" on facebook.

 

[don64]

Hi bountiful1,

For myself, I have frequently joyously shared personal information thinking others would feel the same joy and sense of celebration that I did. That has not always been the case. I would just ask myself how I would feel if no one responded, or if the responses were not what I necessarily expected. It's not reasonable to expect people unfamiliar with PTSD to understand what you are talking about. Just my thoughts.

Don

 

[bountiful1]

Hi Don.
I very much appreciate your words. I did write it in FB after messaging a couple of friends on it. I have had a lot of support and "thumbs up" and "likes", which touches me very deeply. I know where you're coming from though. WHen I first disclosed, I was met with disdain and shaming and - over the top - embarrassment. It took it's toll and sent me in to hiding again. But, now I am stronger, and want my "friends" to know. I knew the posing would only be seen by "friends" and thought it would be worth the effort. It's been positive, and I feel lucky for that. Nowadays, when I meet people who poo poo one's experiences, I walk by and shake my head. They are inappropriately opinionated (I think). I was taught in Adult (meaning Better) schooling; that decent people know when to keep it to themselves... Good Luck. I appreciate your response.

 

[don64]

Hi Bountiful 1,

I'm so happy for you to be receiving the sensitivity and support you deserve. I'm soon to be in a somewhat similar situation. After a long time of isolation and not asking for the help I need, I've recently been forced to ask for the help I need. This dovetailed with my decision to attend a church that is gay friendly. Within the next couple of weeks I will attend my first service there after having done a lot of work here on MS. And, I am charting a new course for myself and not going to pretend to be all put together and not needing anything. I intend to be honest about the damage I sustain from being sexually abused, physically abused and tortured by my parents. My intention is not to over share, and to keep the bonding process at a pace that feels like I'm conscious of who and where others are regarding how sensitive they are ABLE to be with me, and to be conscious of them being able to share thoughtful and personal responses. In other words, just checking each other out and setting my boundaries on nice but unavailable to people who aren't what I'm looking for, and being patient about people whose circles overlap mine in a meaningful way showing up when the time is right. No acting needy and hasty. It's a new day.

So, in reality, the post I wrote to you was also to myself. This is brand new territory for me, as I haven't been able to be conscious of choosing who I interact with until recently. Before, I just did my best to please everyone in a primitive effort to keep safe. Thank you so much for opening up this topic. It is front and center for me right now, and I hope some of your good energy rubs off on me.

Again, so pleased for your good experience.

Don

p.s. I think signature just means if there is something particularly personal to you that you would like to share with others: a quote, a song lyric, personal thoughts. I didn't have one for months, and then realized there was a quote I felt really good about. You don't have to have one.

 

[wild_turky]

I don't do fb and i only shear here. If they are truly your friends then tell but I all so think do they deserve to know, would they understand.