A TOOL THAT MAY HELP US

[bec]

hello men:

i was reading a post on birthdays and a member had a suggestion that sounded great. Adrian2 said that on a difficult day a person can do a number of things to help themself feel better. one of his suggestions was:

to write yourself a letter and say all the things you would want to hear from an imagined parent.

i read that and it was like a light bulb came on in my head. that sounds like a great idea. like an act that could be healing and self-loving. i may not feel up to doing it right now but it sounds like a wonderful idea. if any of you give it a try let us all know the outcome with a quick post on the board.

once a therapist had me write a letter to myself. a letter from the boy i was to the man i am. i used my non-dominant hand for the writings of the boy inside me. when the letter was done it helped me feel better. it really did.

that is why i am listing this post. may it be of help to us. that is all. sincerely,


bec

 

[Curtis St. John]

I'm with you Bec! I did the non dominant hand letter to myself and it led to a huge breakthrough. The following is from my survivor story update on the letter I wrote during my Level I retreat:

If I did nothing else that weekend I would have been on cloud nine, but there was still a letter to write to myself the next day. I chose to write from the little me to the big me, the key for me was using my non-dominant hand (Thank you Dale!) and naturally by the end of that exorcise I was crying from happiness because I finally got in touch with the little me! I visualized a bridge leading back over the bad years where that bad man couldnt reach me, in my visualization, I found the little me sitting there on the other side waiting patiently and perfectly in tact. He said, There you are! Ive been waiting for you! We got reacquainted, became fast friends again, and very quickly over the next few weeks became the one person we were supposed to be all along, not the two people broken apart when I was little.

The letter is a big tool, we should all use it.

Take Care,