A small victory for us all.

A small victory for us all.
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RICK57

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I would like to thank everyone at this site for giving me so much strength since I first came here (New Years Eve 2003 into 2004).

I was a total wreck then!

Many of you will know that I filed a complaint against my abuser (Oct of last year) & was believed by both the Police and Crown Prosecution Service.

It's been a long hard journey since then, with several delays regarding the ID parade & court appearances.

He was back up in court recently, & the information I received was that he was to appear in court again on 19th May with a view to adavancing the case to Crown Court (exactly the same as last time).

I was feeling a bit pissed off that there appeared to be no real progress. A friend telephoned me tonight & asked if I'd read the local free paper (8 sides of A4 print) that contains news on the local community.

Page 3 headline: ******* PENSIONER FACES SEX CHARGES INVOLVING YOUNG BOYS.

It names him, gives his address except for his house number and lists the number of complaints/charges against him.

I know that whatever else happens, he has very little chance of abusing anyone else without being detected. I now feel that the kids in my town are safe (from him at least).

I feel such a mixture of emotions knowing this - happy that there should be no more victims - sad that there are probably many that I did not prevent by acting earlier.

Got to look forward now!

Thanks again to you all ...Rik
 
A victory for us all. Thank you for posting that. No matter what the outcome now, it's public. I will never know the satisfaction that you're feeling personally, but I feel it through your victory. I know it has been so hard. And even from here, it feels good. I'm so happy for you.

Congratulations Rik. And thank you for getting one more bas**rd out in the light where he belongs.

Peace,
Michael
 
Thanks for your courage in speaking out. You have prevented others from being abused by your action and are a hero.

Ken
 
Brought this back to the top because there has been another development.

When the information about the court case was in the free paper, 2 other people came forward with complaints (one has been rejected for whatever grounds - I am aware of more details, but cannot currently add them here).

I found out yesterday (July 22nd) that the CPS had taken the perv back to court and charged him with offences against a second person.

I have just turned 48 years old and the abuse dates back to 1969. I can't explain the range of emotions that I went through after taking the phone call from the police. I was actually sent home from work early (my manager is aware & could see that I was highly agitated).

I wnet to a wedding reception last night & didn't know how I was going to cope - I stuck it out and had a bloody good night.

It's difficult for other people to understand why I found such good news upsetting.

I've been fighting this since 1969. I made my complaint in October of last year, but until now (although I have had lot's of support) it's been me against him! 50% of that load has now been taken from me... I cannot explain what that feels like.

When I first spoke out, it was beyond my control.

When I told the police, it was like it was meant to happen at that time.

The same goes for anyone else - if you do speak up and make a complaint, do it when it is right for you.

It is a long journey, but the destination is a good one!

*Tonight I have had a bottle of Champagne that was half price in my local shop... 50 % of the load & half price celebration! *It was decent stuff!!!

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Rick good for you. You deserve to treat your self. Just want to say that it is not you 100% or 50% against your perp. It is the Crown (which represents the whole country) and every one here who is against the perp. Yes you have to talk and tell what happened to you, but you are not alone. There are millions of people behind and with you.

Buying a million bottles of champagne might be too expensive. ;) ;) So just one bottle but drink some for me. :p

Jonathan
 
Rick

Im so pleased for you. Another of my abusers is up in front of the Crown Court at Guildford this coming week where he will be committed for trail. If you need support through this trying time PM me.

Keep on keeping on.

Kirk
"Instigate change, as it appears it wont come naturally in our cause. Sometimes it needs a little forcing".
 
Rik,

Bravo for you! We will take these perps down one by one no matter how long it takes.

My story is similar. Abused in the late 60s when it just wasn't talked about. As I got older, got married to a great woman and had two sons I started to get angry at what he had done to me and at the system that enabled his predatory ways.

Back in 2002 the state of Connecticut extended the time to bring a civil action to 30 YEARS (not a typo) past the age of majority so that meant survivors could seek redress up to the age of 48. Imagine that!

Also imagine my perp, or any Connecticut perp, having to face their victim adult to adult, not child to adult, armed with lawyers and the truth. I brought a civil suit against my perp, went through the discovery and deposition stages (my perp plead the 5th freguently) and was all set to go to trial in June of this year.

My perp was retired with little to his name but days before the trial was about to start and at the urging of the trial judge we reached an out of court settlement. There was no confidentiality agreement. I can talk about this to anyone at anytime.

I must say that support of family and friends was great and the primary and secondary lawyers I retained were highly principled, motivated and sensitive to my needs. I can't say they understood because unless you've been through this words fail to convey the true meaning of surviving CSA.

Keep fighting for yourself and for those survivors who are not yet ready. It can be such a relief to unload the burden. Congratulations and remember that we are here for you.

Best regards,

Zipser
 
Rik - We stop and consequence our perps one perp at a tume!! Who knows how many more innocent kids he had in his sites until YOU dropped him "dead" in his tracks!! Good job, Rik!!!!

Howard
 
Rik,

I thought I would pop this up to the surface again in light of Andrei's concerns and worries. He needs to see this again, and we all need to recall what incredible courage it takes to follow through on such cases. Well done bro!

Larry
 
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