A Quote Being Treated Badly

[KMCINVA]

A quote that was shared with me, to remind what others do is a reflection of themselves and I should not let it destroy me!

If someone treats you badly
Just remember there is something wrong with them, NOT YOU!
Normal people do not go around destroying other Human Beings

 

[bey]

I don't think that's true. I think if you look around, that's exactly what normal people do. It's the abnormal people who don't.

 

[KMCINVA]

Interesting take---so if we are good that is abnormal--I hope not because I would like to believe there are more good people than bad people in this world.

 

[bey]

I don't even think it's about being good or bad, I just think it's human nature. I mean being mean, being unkind, bullying, abuse, rape, murder, war... we drop bombs on countries and stuff, call ourselves good. I don't think it's good or bad.
I think normal people protect themselves. And it's sometimes misguided and it often hurts others. Bullies, drug addicts, abusers, countries living with fear, shame, misunderstanding, all things that can cause you to destroy another human out of self preservation no matter how wrong that is. I think it's not good or bad it's like.... a normal human reaction to hurt someone to stop there own pain. By action or inaction.
it's the abnormal human who can resist that.

 

[woodenshoes]

Kevin

I believe that statement to be true. Good people don't always think of the hurt they cause.

Ws

 

[Bluedogone]

It's a real comfort to know that actions others take don't have to have any influence on how we act, react or go forward with our own lives. We decide if we'll take the hurt and build it up until it affects all areas of life, or if we just slough it off so we can get on with living as best we can.

But I think we're on a slippery slope and falling fast when we decide what normal people do or don't do. When we make the judgement of what "normal" people do, we open ourselves up to that same judgement. The possible extreme of which could be some action we took with completely good innocent intentions that had the effect of destroying someone else.

 

[AlexBoyd]

Theoretically, it's a sign of strength to be immune to how others treat us. However, it would also require such a disconnect or mental barrier that it would be isolating and exhausting from erecting all the walls around us. In my opinion, we have to open ourselves to others because good can come from them as well as bad. I wish I could say that I am able dismiss (or put in perspective) hurtful behavior, but the reality is that I can't and I'm not going to attempt to trick myself that I can. I am not a calibrated machine capable of sorting and keeping the good while rejecting and dismissing the bad.

Thanks for posting the quote because it is generating some interesting discussion. My apologies for sounding pessimistic...

 

[BFree27]

I've always been under the impression that humans are on this planet to observe. Whatever may be "good", whatever may be "bad", it doesn't really matter at the end of it all, when we finally destroy this planet with our horrible habits (sorry, I'm a pessimist). Because honestly, why else are we here? We're using up resources, creating things yes but in what is still an essentially closed ecosystem... Nothing to our actual public knowledge has tried to contact us from outside of this planet. So again, what's the point of naming "good" and "bad" beyond the laws we already have?

As long as children are protected under hard laws, honestly I feel like we can figure out the rest by minding our own business most of the time. Maybe it's just wishful thinking though. I'm just tired of pointing fingers, you know?

Someday, in a perfect world, it would be amazing if a survivor could call out a perp in a designated safe space and say "hey, this happened between us and something now needs to be done about it or we can't move forward" and then the perp could be like "yeah, that DID happen, I'm sorry. Let's see what we can do to make you feel more comfortable in this shared space" and so on. Wouldn't that be beautiful? I don't think this scenario would ever be possible with most CSA situations, but beyond that maybe there's hope. Who knows.

Anyways, my point is life happens whether we pay attention to "good"/"bad" so we may as well live by the moral code we know is right in our hearts. Observe the world around you, see what you agree with and what you don't, make your own call. Who wants to live forever, right?