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Avatar,

First of all, I don't think I have had a chance to welcome you. I wish that none of us needed this place, but I am glad you have found it.

The feelings that you are experiencing are very, very common amongst us. We have been hurt and violated in ways that took away a lot from us. So go easy on yourself. You are NOT odd. You are a survivor. And that gives you more strength than the so-called normies have.

Feeling numb is the way we survived. I have emotions, but nothing and I mean nothing when it comes to my abusers.

The therapy is a great idea I think. I have been in therapy for seven months now and it is helping, along with my psychiatrist.

If you need to get things off your chest, this is the place to do it. You will find nothing but support here. If I can help, please let me know.

Peace,

Marc

 

[reality2k4]

Avatar, as Marc said, it is common to feel this way but it will get better.

It is true that we don't want friends to think we are nuts, because we have therapy. It is hard to explain to them, even harder not too!

It will get better for you with the right therapy, and of course us, so hang on in here, we are always ready to help,

take care,

ste

 

[sadanddown]

Avatar,

I know how you are feeling. I'm scared as well...but sometimes I can't even place a finger on what it is that I'm scared of. I think for me, its just that I don't know what to do. It's that simple, yet also that complicated.

Hang in there,

Jon

 

[Lloydy]

Avatar
there are no rules that say you have to tell people, if you feel more comfortable not saying anything - then that's OK.

Disclosing is something that is very personal to each of us as Survivors, we 'know' when the moment is right to tell a friend, and usually it is the right moment. Very few Survivors seem to get that wrong, as we heal we seem to gain the ability to read the situation and our level of confidence, and if we feel 'right', then we tell our friend or whoever.

It's always a temptation to run before we can walk, we see others doing things we want to do - because what they do seems like the goal we set ourselves.
Stick to that goal, but don't take short cuts.

Dave