4 is way to young to be sexualized
happyjohnn
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ok So iam new here. I have been reading many stories of suvival and my heart goes to all my brothers who have endured more then any person should have to go through.
*****TRIGGER WARNING****
I am certain that this post will have triggers. It is not my intention to add to any persons pain or memories but i also need to be authntic and tell my truth.
First let me tell you where i am now. I am 57 yo. Raised Mormon, identify as Gay. never been married , Have a difficult time with relationships, Feel broken at times, Been in therapy off and on since i was 24. Trigger Trigger. I was sexualized at the age of 4 by my swim instructor. It ranged from touch to full on penitration. yes at 4 he penitrated me.
It was not a one time event. by no means. 2-3 times a week until i was 7 . It stopped because we moved. i stuffed it deep into my unconscience, but as we al know that doesnt last.
When i was 24 all hell broke loose in my life. My dad, who i was not close with. ok so he was always there but never really there. I am the youngest of 6 kids and my dad was not very involved in my life. At this time he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer.
I had injured my back and was getting ready for back surgery. My mom and dad and i were at the hospital doig my pre op stuff. We noticed my dad was slurring his speach. so after my paper work was done we walked down to the ER and had him admitted for stroke. The next day was my surgery. My mom and i arrived for my pre op and the Shuttle Challenger had just exploded. This was not only a tragedy but both my parents worked on the shuttle program. so i was on the 2nd floor and my dad was on the 7th floor and my mom was riding the elevator for several days. durning his stroke assesment they found a 2" cancer in his lung and a 1/2" cancer on his adrenal gland. The next year was spent as his primary care giver.
As he got sicker i started to fall apart. Vague memories feelings doubts, I finally sought out some therapy. I felt it was the stress of my dads failing health I was only 25 to young to loose my dad. My therapist started to tap into my underlying problem. My swim coach had started to abuse me at the age of 4 and i was remembering it. OMG the memories. the pain didnt all happen it once but as the memories came back it was overwhelming.
At sometime i will go into more about the memory process and recovery but for now just wanted to put it out there. yes i was 4 when i was completly violated and no one saw the signs the warnings
*****TRIGGER WARNING****
I am certain that this post will have triggers. It is not my intention to add to any persons pain or memories but i also need to be authntic and tell my truth.
First let me tell you where i am now. I am 57 yo. Raised Mormon, identify as Gay. never been married , Have a difficult time with relationships, Feel broken at times, Been in therapy off and on since i was 24. Trigger Trigger. I was sexualized at the age of 4 by my swim instructor. It ranged from touch to full on penitration. yes at 4 he penitrated me.
It was not a one time event. by no means. 2-3 times a week until i was 7 . It stopped because we moved. i stuffed it deep into my unconscience, but as we al know that doesnt last.
When i was 24 all hell broke loose in my life. My dad, who i was not close with. ok so he was always there but never really there. I am the youngest of 6 kids and my dad was not very involved in my life. At this time he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer.
I had injured my back and was getting ready for back surgery. My mom and dad and i were at the hospital doig my pre op stuff. We noticed my dad was slurring his speach. so after my paper work was done we walked down to the ER and had him admitted for stroke. The next day was my surgery. My mom and i arrived for my pre op and the Shuttle Challenger had just exploded. This was not only a tragedy but both my parents worked on the shuttle program. so i was on the 2nd floor and my dad was on the 7th floor and my mom was riding the elevator for several days. durning his stroke assesment they found a 2" cancer in his lung and a 1/2" cancer on his adrenal gland. The next year was spent as his primary care giver.
As he got sicker i started to fall apart. Vague memories feelings doubts, I finally sought out some therapy. I felt it was the stress of my dads failing health I was only 25 to young to loose my dad. My therapist started to tap into my underlying problem. My swim coach had started to abuse me at the age of 4 and i was remembering it. OMG the memories. the pain didnt all happen it once but as the memories came back it was overwhelming.
At sometime i will go into more about the memory process and recovery but for now just wanted to put it out there. yes i was 4 when i was completly violated and no one saw the signs the warnings