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Grunty1967b

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Hi all,

I've been going through a very rough and distresfull , sleepless time these last few weeks but I wanted to share some news on the positive side.

I have my first appointment with my first ever T this week and I'm scared but also looking forward to it. I feel it's going to be a lifeline for me.

So, I'm feeling 10% better I think - so here's to me! :)
 
Bruce,

That's a big step and I remember being very nervous the first time I went: trust issues, boundaries, fear, Little Larry running in circles thinking of reasons to go home, crazymaker on "full speed ahead" - all in one package. But once you are in and sit down it does get better.

These people are pros and the first item on the agenda will be to put you at ease. You won't have to proceed faster than a pace you are comfortable with.

You SHOULD feel better bro; it's a big step. And yes, here's to you! :)

Much love,
Larry
 
Bruce,
Our natural tendency is to feel anxious or fearful when you are going to share intimate and personal things about your life... I am proud of you for stepping out of your "comfort zone" and making steps to get help.

You're awesome buddy,
Riv
 
Bruce,

Congratulations on taking such a huge step forward. Just remember the whirlwind of emotions is natural as you adjust to your T.

Courage-Wisdom-Spirituality
 
Bruce,

Way to go, man! The importance of a competent guide through difficult times cannot be understated.

Please keep us up to date.
 
Great move on your part. Congrats... It's not easy for us to open up to others. Going to a T has helped me tremendously. You are brave.
 
I would tell you to go and enjoy it Bruce, but I know from experience that it can be a scarey time, especially during the days and hours just prior to the visit.

Larry is correct in that the crazymaker just wants to mess with your mind.

Be honest with your T. I know a guy who won't share what is really on his mind while at the T's. I've even been guilty of it myself from time to time.

I wish you all the best as you prepare for this event.

Courage my friend,

John
 
Bruce,

John's remark reminds me of something I would do better if I had to start all over again.

As he says, try to be totally honest with your T. But if he/she is going too fast or is getting into territory where you still feel uncomfortable, then it is better to just say so rather than to dodge things or make things up. All you have to say is "I can't talk about that yet", or "I'm not ready to deal with that". Just saying that you are uncomfortable with a topic will help your T to help you; it shows where your boundaries are at the moment.

Much love,
Larry
 
That's awesome. Thanks John and Larry. I really appreciate the advice from guys who've been there.

John, you're so right with the days and hours leading up to the event (the first appointment). I'm down to the hours now, so you don't want to see inside my head at the moment. I'm even at work today. Imagine how constructive I'm going to be? Not!

;)
 
Bruce,

I don't know if this will reach you before you go to your T. Probably he/she will not be expecting anything except some "get acquainted" sorts of things. Certainly a good T won't try to lead you into the heart of your issues right away. They do understand there are BIG triggers in all this.

I really do think you will be fine. After my first session I was so relieved I went out to my car and sat there and cried a few minutes. I was expecting to be traumatized, but of course I wasn't.

That's the whole idea of seeing a T: to get help with recovery so that your fears and other issues can be addressed with as little trauma as possible.

Let us know how it goes.

Much love,
Larry
 
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