1 year since I spoke up

1 year since I spoke up
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RICK57

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A year ago tonight (by the day ,,,Saturday, not the date) I first spoke to the police about my abuse.

It was a really dark and stormy night (and I'd been out at York for most of the day drinking real ale). I met the Police in their patrol car at the local museum (short version of story), and after a short conversation asked the question: 'What would happen if someone said that they had been abused many years ago"?

The answer was: "We would take it very seriously"

Result was - next day , they called at my house (expecting a false address) to discuss it further.

Shortly they required an official statement (same day)...cannot indicate why!!!???

Sunday 17th Oct was the day I gave my statement...this year 17th is a Monday.

Think the case is going well, but I am emotional at present....still strong.

Think I'll make a cake for my statement and put a candle in it!

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Hi Rik,

I'm proud of you for taking that step. I can't do the same since my perp is dead. He was a teenager when it happend anyhow and I was only 6 so I doubt they would listen to me even if he was still living.

And congratulations on the anniversary. I get emotional for certain ones surrounding my issues as well so don't feel bad on that score. You're not alone.

About the cake... Can I have some too? You might make enough for all of us and post a picture of it in the images thread...

Seriously, I wish you the best as the case continues.

Courage,

John
 
Hi Rik

It is strange how we keep dates such as diclosing in our minds. It is as though they are real turning points which they most definately are. Bake that cake and put that candle on the top, give yourself a huge back on the back and enjoy it.

Kirk
 
Rik - Congrats!! I remember the day a policeman's answer would not be like that! Times ARE changing!!! It takes a lot to do what you did! I'm glad you shared that because I'm sure your story gave others courage to disclose on their perps. May those candles burn bright - brighten your day and remind us there are no more secrets, shadows or dark corners!!

Howard
 
Rik,

It is so empowering when one of us is able to strike back, especially after all these years. My perp died 11 years ago. I googled his name and discovered that he lies in hallowed memory in an old colonial graveyard - but his son (my friend in childhood and probably also a victim of his) didn't even show for his funeral. I felt cheated when I saw he was gone.

This one means a lot to all of us Rik.

Good luck,
Larry
 
Congratulations, Rik,

I'm glad for you that you were able to report him as you did. And, like Howard said, that the police responded as they did. In my day, kids were removed from their homes, at least that was the fear, when they reported sexual abuse to the authorities. Juvenile detention facilities in those days were the worst.
But I celebrate with you and congratulate you for being the brave kid that you were to have survived as you have and the brave man that you are today.

David
 
Thanks for all of your support, it really means a lot!

Even better news now!

When my case was first raised in the local free paper, someone else came forward.

I've now been officially told that both cases will be linked when my perv next appears in court (later this month). This is really good, because I thought the CPS had screwed up as both cases were previously heard in different courts....can you hear my sigh of relief???

Thanks again & strength to you all....Rik
 
Rik,

You've done so much good by speaking up. Congratulations! Can you imagine how the other victim felt when he saw that he was not alone? Your actions enabled him to come forward. All I can say is WOW and well done.

Maybe the times are slowly changing and people are becoming educated. Like the others have mentioned, for the police to respond as they did shows there's still hope.

Best wishes going forward with the case. Hope you will share its outcome with us. We'll be here for you.

Thanks,

Paul
 
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