1 issue / 2 issues / 3 / 4?
Don't know if I should split this into several posts, but I'm putting it all in one. Things that happened this week and how I feel at present!
Since I took the perv to court earlier this year, and gained a conviction in March (anyone that doesn't know, the crimes were in 1969) I've not exactly known where my head is at most of the time. I think I spent so long not telling anyone, that once I did., I didn't really know how to deal with the whole thing. It was like a cannon ball rolling down a hill. It was taking the lid off Pandora's box.
I didn't know how everything would work out, and now that my head is finally settling, I feel like the world is a different place to what it was.
I trust people more than I have for many years (since I was 12), but I remember the reasons that I trusted when I was younger, and how I was let down. How do I know that when I try to trust someone now, that my trust is deserved? Will I be let down?
I also thought that I was pretty perceptive, but this week, a member of my staff rang into work trying to speak to me, because they couldn't come to work. They'd had a telephone call from the police asking about issues with a stepfather and felt pretty screwed up, now that it was all being draggged up again. I've known the member of staff for many years before they came to work for the same company. The person was in panic mode, and the call was due to abuse by the stepfather. The person that took the call was very discreet, and relayed the basics to me, without even knowing about my own situation. It blew my mind! I don't know what the full details are, but for the police to be telephoning, it must mean that a complaint had been registered at an earlier date. In this country, they will not contact someone out of the blue (so they told me when I suggested other victims to them). I can't believe that I missed all of the signs. When we get to talk, I know that it will be a two way thing of '****, you too'? I'm stunned! At least I know that I can help and really understand!
The other issue...when I went to court, I took a week off for the main part of the case, and went back 3 Fridays for sentencing / adjournment of sentencing etc. After the week in court, I went back to work, to be told by a good friend (that knew why I was in court), that a story was going round, that I had been up in Crown Court for something, and that I had needed character witnesses. Not that I was the main witness for the prosecution. The stories that came back were pretty twisted and I got really pissed off. It took me about 2 minutes to realise which idiot had screwed the story up ...****ing fish wife. I sent information back that I was after a scalp? Since then though, I keep overhearing silly inane comments (these are supposedly intelligent people). Because I am single ( and probably will be for the rest of my life), they think it is amusing to make all sorts of comments. Well yesterday, I told one of the 2 main offenders (I told him about the court case 2 months ago & told him what I thought of of his stupid comments at the same time)that I was thinking of buying a baseball bat for his friend for christmas, but I was also thinking of giving it to him early! I also said that I didn't go to court and put up with all that crap, just to go into work and listen to their bullshit. I think the message has registered. The one that needs a baseball bat...we work in an open plan office, and every time you stand up, you can see this bastard's head sticking up above the bay dividers (I call him meercat). I told him that someone that fraudulently claims 5 hours overtime per week (among other issues)should not be taking the piss out of me. I absoulutely refuse to put up with what I consider to be harrasment any longer. After I challenged them, it has become quite amusing...meercat sits down every time I stand up.
First 'idiot' said that although he doesn't get on with everyone at work, work is work, and there is no reason why everyone cannot just relax and enjoy a drink together outside of work. I asked why in hell would I want to go for a drink outside of work, with someone that I could not stand at work - that would be very hypocritical. The idiot looked at me with disbelief!
Best wishes ...Rik
Since I took the perv to court earlier this year, and gained a conviction in March (anyone that doesn't know, the crimes were in 1969) I've not exactly known where my head is at most of the time. I think I spent so long not telling anyone, that once I did., I didn't really know how to deal with the whole thing. It was like a cannon ball rolling down a hill. It was taking the lid off Pandora's box.
I didn't know how everything would work out, and now that my head is finally settling, I feel like the world is a different place to what it was.
I trust people more than I have for many years (since I was 12), but I remember the reasons that I trusted when I was younger, and how I was let down. How do I know that when I try to trust someone now, that my trust is deserved? Will I be let down?
I also thought that I was pretty perceptive, but this week, a member of my staff rang into work trying to speak to me, because they couldn't come to work. They'd had a telephone call from the police asking about issues with a stepfather and felt pretty screwed up, now that it was all being draggged up again. I've known the member of staff for many years before they came to work for the same company. The person was in panic mode, and the call was due to abuse by the stepfather. The person that took the call was very discreet, and relayed the basics to me, without even knowing about my own situation. It blew my mind! I don't know what the full details are, but for the police to be telephoning, it must mean that a complaint had been registered at an earlier date. In this country, they will not contact someone out of the blue (so they told me when I suggested other victims to them). I can't believe that I missed all of the signs. When we get to talk, I know that it will be a two way thing of '****, you too'? I'm stunned! At least I know that I can help and really understand!
The other issue...when I went to court, I took a week off for the main part of the case, and went back 3 Fridays for sentencing / adjournment of sentencing etc. After the week in court, I went back to work, to be told by a good friend (that knew why I was in court), that a story was going round, that I had been up in Crown Court for something, and that I had needed character witnesses. Not that I was the main witness for the prosecution. The stories that came back were pretty twisted and I got really pissed off. It took me about 2 minutes to realise which idiot had screwed the story up ...****ing fish wife. I sent information back that I was after a scalp? Since then though, I keep overhearing silly inane comments (these are supposedly intelligent people). Because I am single ( and probably will be for the rest of my life), they think it is amusing to make all sorts of comments. Well yesterday, I told one of the 2 main offenders (I told him about the court case 2 months ago & told him what I thought of of his stupid comments at the same time)that I was thinking of buying a baseball bat for his friend for christmas, but I was also thinking of giving it to him early! I also said that I didn't go to court and put up with all that crap, just to go into work and listen to their bullshit. I think the message has registered. The one that needs a baseball bat...we work in an open plan office, and every time you stand up, you can see this bastard's head sticking up above the bay dividers (I call him meercat). I told him that someone that fraudulently claims 5 hours overtime per week (among other issues)should not be taking the piss out of me. I absoulutely refuse to put up with what I consider to be harrasment any longer. After I challenged them, it has become quite amusing...meercat sits down every time I stand up.
First 'idiot' said that although he doesn't get on with everyone at work, work is work, and there is no reason why everyone cannot just relax and enjoy a drink together outside of work. I asked why in hell would I want to go for a drink outside of work, with someone that I could not stand at work - that would be very hypocritical. The idiot looked at me with disbelief!
Best wishes ...Rik