My complicated attraction to college guys
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So maybe this is related to my abuse or maybe it's just a gay thing
I both find myself attracted to and have a phobia of college guys. This is my porn of choice and I have yet to be with any man young or old.
Phobia comes in as whenever I'm out in a place like a supermarket, fast food or today at a convience store and I see one or usually more than one I start getting anxious and stay as far away from them as I can especially if they are fooling around in a group. When I was paying at the self checkout I kept telling myself to hurry up so I could get out of their way. I did however get myself to stay so I could pickup my food that I ordered..best I can figure is that they tend to be immature and rowdy in groups
Now my abuser was my brother and when the abuse stopped he was 3 weeks short of his 18th Birthday. However it's not an uncommon attraction for older guys to be attracted to younger ones especially as is my case I came out way later in life and could just be mourning the loss of all the crushes I had back in HS and college. Maybe I'm acting out? Maybe there is a trauma that I don't remember? I don't know.
Perhaps this isn't abuse related and doesn't really fit but this is really the only place I can talk about my abuse.
I probably should be in therapy to sort this out but starting with a new therapist always takes too much time, them getting to know you before you can dive into your issues
Any advice (perhaps you had a similar situation) is appreciated
Jason
So maybe this is related to my abuse or maybe it's just a gay thing
I both find myself attracted to and have a phobia of college guys. This is my porn of choice and I have yet to be with any man young or old.
Phobia comes in as whenever I'm out in a place like a supermarket, fast food or today at a convience store and I see one or usually more than one I start getting anxious and stay as far away from them as I can especially if they are fooling around in a group. When I was paying at the self checkout I kept telling myself to hurry up so I could get out of their way. I did however get myself to stay so I could pickup my food that I ordered..best I can figure is that they tend to be immature and rowdy in groups
Now my abuser was my brother and when the abuse stopped he was 3 weeks short of his 18th Birthday. However it's not an uncommon attraction for older guys to be attracted to younger ones especially as is my case I came out way later in life and could just be mourning the loss of all the crushes I had back in HS and college. Maybe I'm acting out? Maybe there is a trauma that I don't remember? I don't know.
Perhaps this isn't abuse related and doesn't really fit but this is really the only place I can talk about my abuse.
I probably should be in therapy to sort this out but starting with a new therapist always takes too much time, them getting to know you before you can dive into your issues
Any advice (perhaps you had a similar situation) is appreciated
Jason